Is it normal for me to ask my best friend to do this for me?

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My best friend has been going though financial difficulties on and off for 2 years he is taking 7 classes so that doesn't allow him to work often. He eventually want to move out of the place he living with his father but he is afraid financial aid will not help with his classes. so he is taking as much as he can. I am always the one to drive to him and hang out at his apartment and any time we go out I would most likely drive. For the last year he has been living in a very uncomfortable and unconventional way so every time we hang out we would not hang out where he lives. We hang out at places like the beach, we go to dinner or Barnes and Nobles. We live about 20 minutes apart but I hang out with him a lot after work and that's a 45 minutes drive. When we go out I most of the time end up paying. I understand he is in a financial bind right now so i'm willing to send the money and send the gas.

All I asks him to do is drive whether its my car or his, and I would pay for gas, however he doesn't want to. What he ends up doing is making dinner or bring food for us.which is not all the time but he is doing it more often. i'm grateful for it but I don't care for that I don't mind making food or paying for it I just want him to drive. And yes he has driven my car and he drives to class everyday in his car he says he doesn't like to drive with people in the car it give him anxiety also he doesn't like to drive my car. So yesterday he said "how about this I drive out of town and places that we are not familiar with". I accepted but I really did not want to that's when I offered to pay for gas for him and he would drive his car but he declined. So later yesterday I came up with a compromise for both of us to take turns driving but honestly that's not what I want I honestly just want a break driving for a while and I just want him to drive anytime we hang out.

Don't get me wrong he will drive sometime when I don't want to or he would take the wheel if I cant park the car properly (parallel parking) About two years ago when we were coming back from a theme park he drove not feeling to good because I was not uncomfortable with the particulate car. What are your thoughts and opinions about the situation?

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    Obviously this setup suits him, so if you want it to change you will have to put your foot down and tell him calmly that you're sick of doing all the driving and you're not prepared to do more than half of it from now on.

    If he has a genuine psychological difficulty with driving that's one thing, but if he's just used to a situation that's great for him but not for you, that's an entirely different thing.

    To quote an old saying; if you act like a doormat people will walk all over you. You sound like a nice person and an exceptionally good friend, but that doesn't mean you have to allow yourself to be exploited.

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  • peterrabbyt3
    7 years ago

    Does he ever ask to suck you off?

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