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Basically people are mad because I want to keep going to the gym and at the same time I'm trying to recover from binge eating disorder. They keep getting mad at me because of my desires of wanting to lose weight.
Its just people like them want to always put others down for bettering themselves.
In this culture of fat acceptance/fat positive, it is normal. But you should keep going with exercise and healthy eating/losing weight. The problem with modern people is that they’ve become complacent and lazy and just want to change the world to accommodate their weakness instead of improving themselves.
The fat acceptance movement is a terrible moment. No you are not more attractive when fat, men generally do not find you attractive. Yes men do have sex with fat people, is it because we like them big? Nope it's because our dicks dont have eyes.
I have a lot of fat fwb. Would I perfer them skinny... FUCK YES I WOULD. Some of them are genuinely good people, it's just that I won't date women that weigh more than me. Its not a high standard.
The question I've always asked myself.
What makes it that 'fine' about being fat?
The answer is it isn't fine, it just makes people insecure and its even worse if they have an eating disorder. Another reason why it isn't fine is because you're putting yourself at risk and you always limit yourself on what you can do. Yes I agree with you that the Fat acceptance movement is a terrible movement reasons for that is they keep advocating obesity which results in most of them being in self denial.
If anything I would choose to be thin mostly because I want to live longer.
The people that tell me there's such thing as HAES, those people are wrong. HAES is a lie.
I know this because you cannot be healthy at any size. They cannot dare say that a morbidly fat person is healthy when clearly they have some health complications.
Eventually it could lead to shortening the lifespan and leading to death.
In short: Fat shouldn't be celebrated the same way anorexia should not be celebrated.
My wife always stays in shape and when she worked in an office the fat girls would mock her for it. They'd bring pie and always ask her to eat it even tho they knew she would say no because she would diet. They would offer her junk food and then say "you're sooo skinny you dont need to diet I can BARELY see you." Shes not even that skinny. But fat ppl can project their insecurities on fit ppl. They take it as an insult that you diet and you arent even fat like them. Because if you are fit and still dieting they know for damn sure they should be.
People are really weird about others refusing junk food - ESPECIALLY women.
I noticed this when I used to work in an office back in my early 20s. I never ate the junk food they brought in, mostly because it was usually stuff I didn't love to eat and my mindset has always been that if I'm going to eat something really bad for me, I'm going to damn well enjoy it. So I will sometimes eat junk food, but only my absolute favourites and only when I really am craving it. Definitely not the cheap nasty shit that people brought in on a daily basis.
I was practically bullied for it. People who were nice and normal with me most of the time would suddenly turn into borderline aggressive because I said no thanks when offered a piece of gross supermarket chocolate cake. People took it personally and obsessed over it. The whole team would end up staring at me saying things like "why deny yourself? You're already slim and married, treat yourself! Do you have issues with food? Why are you so uptight? Mmm, look, chocolate cake, jealous?!"
It was really fucking weird and I'm so glad I don't work in an office anymore. Fat loves company.
It depends on your weight NOW. If you've had an eating disorder and put on lots of weight get into a pattern where you come down to your correct weight. Don't, repeat DON'T do what many do and starve yourself to death, literally!
I commend you for working hard to improve your health.
For context here are you currently overweight? If you’re not they may be saying these things out of concern that you will go too far in the other direction. If on the other hand losing weight would benefit you I suspect they are jealous that you have found the self control to improve your life.
Good luck with your recovery.
I don't know what your weight is, and even if you tell me you're overweight I can't be certain because you might just think that because of your eating disorder.
What I do know is that exercise is beneficial for almost anyone at any time, as long as the intensity level is appropriate for your own personal needs. So it's almost certainly a good thing for you to go to the gym.
Exercise isn't about losing weight, it's about increasing your overall fitness level which makes you healthier. So don't stop going to the gym unless your doctor gives you a very compelling reason to stop. I'm sure your family and friends mean well but they don't always know what is best.
Depends on your current weight and height, ut they just jelly at your determination
You're absolutely correct about people wanting to put others down for bettering themselves. That's easier than actually taking the time to improve themselves, and people can be very jealous and competitive creatures.
I've had so-called "friends" (and even exes) in the past who were the same way about me doing anything to better myself (mentally or physically). It all boiled down to the fact that they wanted to keep my self esteem down and for me to not get any better because that way I wouldn't surpass them, or finally realize that I could do better than those people.
Try to surround yourself with supportive and secure people, and do what makes you happy, and what is healthy. Just the fact that these people have a problem with you trying to recover from your binge eating disorder is disturbing in itself, and they sound like highly toxic people.
Wait, are you the person from the question about wanting to lose weight despite loving food, and who wants to weigh 70 lbs at 5'3"? If so, people may not want you to lose weight out of concern, because that is dangerously thin.