Is it normal friendships or relationships

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First of all: I'm sorry about not having a more specific title, but I didn't know how to summarize this.

Anyway. Everywhere I look, whether it's IRL or on TV-shows, people are complaining about not having a relationship and that they will be forever alone. Yet they have several friends who are always there to support them, and whom they do lots of fun activities with.

I, on the other hand, have a boyfriend but haven't had a real friend since I was 15 (I'm 24 now). Even though our relationship is amazing and we hang out a lot, I feel lonely for not having any friends. After having been dumped in previous relationships there has never been anyone to cheer me up, so I've been dwelling in sadness alone.

When discussing this with my parents and sister, they've only said I should be grateful for having a boyfriend because not everyone has one. They think that because I at least have someone to hang out with I'm not allowed to complain about being lonely. I just miss having someone who will be in my life no matter what, and doing fun things like barbecues or parties, or just hanging out.

Does any of this make sense? Is it normal to feel like this? Maybe I just am ungrateful.

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  • SuMaFTW
    8 years ago

    If you are a female, you need to find a circle of female friends to connect emotionally to you. You have a boyfriend, but men don't connect with women the same way. Easiest way, look for a church that has a dynamic women's ministry.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    What's keeping you from making friends?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I'm shy and have a hard time knowing what to say to other people. Also I feel like I'm annoying or boring. It was easy for me to make friends when I was younger, but I don't know why that changed.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        You need to find people with whom you share a common interest. Join in activities or clubs that you are interested in and you will automatically find yourself surrounded by people who have a lot in common with you. That makes it easier to talk to them and make friends.

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  • strapp
    8 years ago

    ok, no one except me knows that i feel alone , despite what i portray myself to be . even when i make the ppl around me think im their closest person next to their family & i'm the one they share their secrets with ,
    i'm alone , i,m not part of any group .
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    as unsightly as it looks . i've cried ( twice ) when i saw friends & friendship sens on media & realize that i don't have that . btw im 20 so it's even more disturbing .
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    but then i realized those friendships are not real & that kind on relation exist only on the screen .
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    that helps to fog the void , NOT FILL THE VOID , but as long as ppl live in a blissful world , without realizing this , they will always think they have a friend .
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    i know this for a fact because until 13 i like everyone "THOUGHT" that i had friends

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    BUT NOW .......................
    it's hilarious when i here the word bes friend .
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    SO ,
    if you know that there in no one to support you , the only thing hat will happen to you will learn to support yourself & become stronger & strong enough to support others .
    oh!
    p.s. i've " never " had a girlfriend , nor do i plan to have one .
    & i'm not gay ( just clearing that out )

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