Is it normal getting panick attacks thinking of my crush ?

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I am 21 female that has been religious ever since I was young.
There's certain morals and/or beliefs I have been bought up on.
Some years ago when I was about 16, I developed a soft spot for one of my girl mates. It grew from there.Eventually I admitted to my self I had feelings for this girl. I was very ashamed, felt guilty but most of all, developed anxiety when I thought about her or was meeting up with her. It was mixed with excitement but more so fear took over. I never used to be this way around her initially. I got over her and this when we stopped being real friends for years but now that I've decided I'm going to get this off my chest because i have always had this on my mind, I've gotten so worked up about it. Its like my mind can't fathom the idea so I've gone into depression. Something that was supposed to be exciting has turned into a nightmare and I can't be positive because I always end up anxious! I feel my fam would be disgusted in me! Am I normal??

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Tinybird

7 years ago

Dude, it's a natural part of life. There is no reason to be ashamed of your natural instincts and emotions. If there was, everybody on Earth would be going to hell.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Thanks for this feedback
  
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  - sandnigga
    
    7 years ago
    
    id say the best relationship you can have is with the opposite sex
    
    im bisexual myself, and but if i wish to get married in the future, it's going to be with a girl, and obviously im a guy in case you didnt know lol
    
    its just because theres 2 main reasons. The first is because with opposite sex you can reproduce. I want my genetics and hers to make us a baby. i want the person i love to be able to make a baby with me.
    second is because with a girl it feels naturally romantic. for some reason, i just dont have romantic feelings for another guy lol
    its because a guy is supposed to have mainly logic, and a girl is supposed to have mainly emotion.
    i love a girls emotion :) obviously both guys and girls can have logic and emotion, it's just usually girls carry more emotion, and guys more logic.
    so it's like a ying-yang effect, with a guy and a girl, which is natural. its not just reproduction. it's the combination of emotion and logic which fit well together. ;)
    and i love that <3
    
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- sandnigga
  
  7 years ago
  
  Its not natural to want to be with someone of the same sex.
  
  Sorry. And this is coming from someone who is bi lol
  
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  - Ellenna
    
    7 years ago
    
    What? You're bi but you don't accept it as natural? WTF is wrong with you?
    
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    - sandnigga
      
      7 years ago
      
      its not natural. im not going to deny reality like some people try to do.
      
      serial killers get excitement from killing people, but is it right?
      thieves find it thrilling to steal from a store or people, but is it right?
      
      you get my point right, just like i get pleasure from someone of the same sex, i enjoy it yes, but i know its not natural
      you cannot reproduce. anyone should know this. its common sense. and this is the exact reason why its unnatural.
      its pretty simple to understand lol
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        7 years ago
        
        I my self have always thought a long these lines and would agree fully! Thanks for this input :)
        
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        sandnigga
        
        7 years ago
        
        n uh huh :)
        
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      - Ellenna
        
        7 years ago
        
        How is having sexual pleasure with someone of the same gender as you harming society???? Serial killers, yes; thieves, yes; sexual pleasure how?
        
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        sandnigga
        
        7 years ago
        
        it is because of the possible loss of social-love relationships
        
        theres alot of gays right now who are only into being gay for the sex.
        a good amount are not interested in forming a committed relationship. people wanting threesomes, foursomes, whatever. not really much loyalty. theres alot of emphasis on sex.
        i admit, i also want to have a threesome with 2 other boys XP haha
        but i understand how this effects people, and i eventually plan to be married to a girl i love
        
        the emphasis on sex is what will hurt this country. you will see it happen before your eyes. more sex in our society than even now! im talking about the united states btw. you live in australia so idk about over there lol
        but yea, in america it could get worse. eventually, no matter how much people deny it, the emphasis on sex could go so far, that eventually beastiality could become legal in all of our states
        people will be banging their dogs and horses. getting married to their dogs and people calling it "normal" lol
        
        it obviously isnt happening too much now, but give it time lol it could happen. this emphasis of sex is not a good thing, even though its enjoyable for most people.
        
        give it time, and you'll see the united states crumble morally if theres enough focus on sex
        
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    - sandnigga
      
      7 years ago
      
      when it comes to society as a whole, no.
      
      because i understand the importance it has on society
      
      its not a good influence either. i just understand how things work.
      
      you may like to get off to someone of the same sex, but does that mean it's right? lol not always.
      
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  - Tinybird
    
    7 years ago
    
    I must have mis-read it as male... I guess I just assumed it was a guy.
    But she still shouldn't be ashamed of who she is. Her family doesn't need to know about her sex life.
    
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    - sandnigga
      
      7 years ago
      
      oh ok, that makes sense then lol
      
      of course not. im not ashamed to be bisexual myself lol
      
      and i agree there too. i dont tell my family either
      
      but all im saying is that its unnatural. which it is. you cant say im wrong. its just cause you cant reproduce. its a simple fact.
      
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RoseIsabella

7 years ago

Panick, huh?

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xxzoexx17

7 years ago

I wouldn't care what your family says. It's who YOU like. 2 of my sisters are pansexual and my best friend is pansexual. Don't get so nervous about it.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Thanks! Its easier said than done as im stuck in an anxiety cycle again! Once you start getting it, it can be seriously difficult to stop :/
  
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  - xxzoexx17
    
    7 years ago
    
    I do understand that. I sometimes have an anxiety cycle. Like I will be in a talent show soon, I believe June 9th, and I have (very) bad stage fright (and I am in it, because I'm trying o get over the stage fright) well even thinking about going on, I start breathing really heavily and panicking. When I do go onstage I start shaking, and get pale, and not being able to breathe.
    
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D4rkt0wn

7 years ago

Gay!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Umm how does this help
  
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  - sandnigga
    
    7 years ago
    
    You dont have to stress over this. Im a Christian myself, and you dont have to be perfect.
    
    But that also doesnt mean you should just go out and do bad things either lol
    
    Its not the end of the world for you lol If you feel that way, then you do, but that doesnt mean you have to have a relationship with her if you dont want.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      Thanks! I've been reading over all your comments and I 100% understand your perspective!! I'm not trying to exclude my self in the whole thing but I feel I am not in the same boat as majority of bi sexuals are. I guess because I've been one to never have a sexual desire so in a sense I class my self asexual. This friend of mine was the only girl I could see my self with. I purely felt a lot of love and warmth towards her, it wasn't about experimenting but just being around her every day and seeing her smile would have been enough.
      
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      - sandnigga
        
        7 years ago
        
        awesome glad to have another smart person agree with me ;)
        
        if people dont agree they're wrong lol i like being right XD haha
        
        even though i know im not perfect lol im wrong like .00000000001% of the time :P lol
        
        n no no thats completely fine, your probaley not in the same boat lol
        
        your not influencing anything, but technically we're all in the same boat, as we could help each other out
        
        cause if this society collapses, we're all in it lol
        
        i just say stay mostly social, socialness is what will help prevent this country from becoming sexually depraved
        
        maybe you just havent come across a hot guy yet? ;) lol
        or a guy that you really love
        
        it doesnt sound sexual though. it just sounds like friendship love :)
        you may be straight afterall ;)
        
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