Iin: great at work / hopeless at home

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When it comes to my job and planning out my work for the day/week/month, I am efficient at managing my time. It seems clear what needs to get done, how long it will take, and what my capabilities are with regard to the work. But...

When it comes to my homelife, I'm a disaster. There's such a great deal of work to be done around the house that I don't even know where to begin. I have been meaning to start an exercise regime for over a month but haven't begun yet because I feel guilty indugling myself when there is all of this work around me to be done. Getting the work around the house completed never happens because there are hundreds of other small errands that distracting me from it. On top of it all, I feel so overwhelmed with everything that needs to be done that I end up procrastinating and spending time on IIN.

What the hell is wrong with me? Got any suggestions? Please be kind if you do.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    At work, a failure to produce and the resulting consequences require you to be on the ball.
    At home, there are few major consequences to inaction. It's all about self motivation and an adult attitude toward the chores that need doing.
    Chore lists can be a great motivator; there is a great deal of satisfaction as things get crossed off the list.
    Scheduling your days also helps, but including time for the things you enjoy doing, must not be omitted.
    It's all about rewards when you are working for yourself, as the punishments are not as apparent or immediate as they are at work.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      An adult attitude towards chores? I am 52, not some kid living on their own for the first time.

      I happen to make lists and work towards everything on them, it's just that the list keeps on growing and growing. At work the lists are reasonable and managable.Thank you for your suggestion anyway.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        Houses are bottomless money pit where you just keep throwing money in and in and in. The chores never end either.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          That's exactly what I mean. Every season there's another major project to be taken on, in addition to the regular occurring maintenance. I feel as though I never have a moment to relax and when I do it somehow feels wrong.

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        • thegypsysailor
          8 years ago

          As are boats. Only houses don't sink from lack of maintenance.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Hey, you obviously have a problem. You asked for suggestions.
        Don't get all pissed off at me if you made yourself sound childish and irresponsible about your chores at home, "I end up procrastinating and spending time on IIN". It doesn't matter how old you are if you act like an irresponsible child.
        They are YOUR responsibilities and one would think at 52, you should have learned how to deal with them by now. If you are a successful 52 year old, perhaps you should just hire someone to do your chores for you. At least they'd get done that way.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          What is wrong with you? The only one who sounds pissed off here is you, dear.

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  • dirtybirdy
    8 years ago

    I'm fairly certain I will never own a home and I'm ok with that. I know what you mean though. You're not as obligated to do housework, I mean you're not even getting paid. Pff.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I think it might be time to downsize now that the minions are living on their own. I used to have more enthusiasm for this house when I was younger. These days it feels like a burden I no longer want.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        Time to downsize or pay someone to do all these jobs you don't get around to.

        Selling a home can be a huge step, so why not get someone else to get the jobs up to date (you'll have to do that anyway if you're going to put it on the market) adn then see if you can cope with the basic maintenance?

        If you still find your home more of a burden than a haven, get rid of it.

        Alternatively, you could find a handy man/woman to move in & share your house in return for working on your house.

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        • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
          8 years ago

          agreed

          if yall has a good job then yall can afford someone to help out with mundane shit

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      • dirtybirdy
        8 years ago

        Good idea. I've worked for a lot of older people (I don't mean you're old, i'm talking 70+) who have houses way too big for them. My own grandfather hadn't seen the second floor of his house in ages.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Meow... maybe you're depressed?

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    • Steve2.0
      8 years ago

      Or maybe, you're depressed...

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Perhaps.

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