Is it normal i am no longer popular
31M here
I had great success with tinder 4 years ago when I was 27. I matched with new girls at a higher rate than I could keep up with, ended up dating one of them for months who later on became my girlfriend. I worked hard, bought a house and a car to have everything in life sorted out, with her happiness as motivation. I treasured her smile, her laughter and her happiness. We were inseparable.
She is asian and I am white and we were forcefully separated two years later when she introduced me to her parents as they are very old fashioned and disapproved of interracial relationships.
She had to choose between me or her parents and I know how seriously they take the “filial piety” thing in their culture, so even if it hurt me deeply, I told her to respect her parent’s choice and don’t worry about me, “I will be fine” (which was an obvious lie, but I didn’t want her to lose her parents).
I waited for her, hoping that her parents changed their mind and that she will be back. I lost all contact with her as her parents forced her to cut me off completely. Even then, I didn’t give up hope until a full year passed and I spent the following year being depressed.
I reinstalled Tinder last week in an attempt to move on and got a total of 1 like and 0 matches. Same bio as years ago with updated high quality pictures in the same location. This makes me wonder:
* Did the app die?
* Did I suddenly become undesirable a few years later? I personally think I’m in a better shape now than 4 years ago.
* Could it be the pandemic?
* Or could it be as simple as people seeing the pain in my eyes?
Well, I don’t know. Just felt like I had to let out some steam as life often suck