Is it normal i dumped her for bringing her culture with her?
Dutch dude here, early 30’s. I signed myself up on Match and got matched with what could had been the most beautiful primadonna in Russia. I tried to not be judgemental about her origins, but hot damn was her attitude around money utter garbage.
Most dutch girls I go out with offer to go dutch. Since I’m a pleasant dude, I usually tell them that the first time is on me and the second can be on them if they offer to split. That way, the girl can sample me the first time around and there’s no loss for her if she doesn’t invite me out for a 2nd date. Usually I pay up anyway on the first 5 dates, just the gesture is nice. This Russian though: she doesn’t even bring a wallet with her and she has expensive taste which was the first warning sign that I saw.
This resulted in me conducting a deeper investigation in which I found:
* Always give Russian girls flowers on dates in uneven numbers. Even numbers are for funerals.
* Russian girls are never expected to go dutch on dates. Fine, it’s a part of their culture so I’ll just go with it.
* more yadda yadda
* Now the big one: Whatever the husband earns is his and hers and whatever she earns is hers. <- Hell no that I’m agreeing to this.
On the 5th date, I casually asked about Russian culture and she started by saying that people are more money focused and that the guy is expected to pay for everything in the household. I explained to her that we Dutch people work towards a common goal and that equality in the household is the norm including chores, raising kids, economics etc. even our government support this by mothers being entitled to 100% of their salaries while on maternity leave. She didn’t agree and said that unless we can split pregnancy too, then all I earn is hers and mine and all she earns is hers. “This is what I expect of a man”.
I went home, thought hard about it and decided that if she wants to bring her culture with her, then I’m not in for the ride. Out of respect, I invited her out for a 6th date, took her to a restaurant for a last treat and told her that this is the end of the line for me and that I wish her all the best. At least I told her face to face rather than dumping over a text.
Anyways, how would you feel?