Is it normal i have 3 girlfriends?

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Installed a dating app and met 2 of them in September and the 3rd in December. I’ve been going out with them ever since + bedding them twice per week each. None of the 3 knows that there are others besides themselves, but to my defense I didn’t make it official with any of them yet. We’re just in the “dating” phase and I have not spoken about exclusivity to any of them yet. Once I make it official with 1, I will decline the other 2, but damn is it hard to choose.

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  • Somenormie
    1 year ago | pl

    Dude it's best that if you break up with either of the 2 and just keep 1.

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  • RoyyRogers
    1 year ago

    If you thought this was okay you would be upfront. Fact you are hiding it proves you know you are an asshole and pretending to not be a dick to stay with these women. If its really not serious you would explain that to all of them. Yes you are an asshole, so have some self respect and tell them the truth. If they are really okay with no strings they will carry on as normal. This is literally only wrong becuase you are lying about everything to them.

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    • Ihidabody
      1 year ago

      I think what the OP means is that he doesn't consider it a big deal, but he knows it would be considered a big deal and that's why he won't be upfront about it.

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      • RoyyRogers
        1 year ago

        Again like I said if they thought it was okay they would be upfront and not hide it. Hiding it intentionally means you think its wrong. So OP is an asshole

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        • Ihidabody
          1 year ago

          Again, like I said, OP doesn't think it's wrong but they know it would and is considered wrong.

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          • RoyyRogers
            1 year ago

            Look if someone knows something is wrong and hide it that makes them an asshole. If they truly believed they were in the right they would justify it. Being sneaky about it proves they know its wrong. If say it was a secret not hurting or effecting anyone but themselves thats another matter. They know its hurting those around them, so its willfully being a dick. You need to learn to read between the lines. As saying one thing and doing the other gives away auctual intentions. Not percieved ones and you are clearly a gullible idiot and people like that get taken advantage of. Dont be a gullible idiot.

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            • Ihidabody
              1 year ago

              Sorry, but I think you're the gullible idiot.

              Being sneaky about something does not always mean someone thinks what they are doing is wrong. They don't think it's wrong, but they hide it because they know it is considered wrong. It's about not getting caught. A lot of serial killers for example. There are a lot of serial killers that truly do not believe they've done anything wrong, but of course they're not going to admit to the whole world that they took the lives of other people because they know that it is not only considered morally wrong, but it goes against the law. It isn't rocket science. Good luck, because like you said, gullible people are really easy to take advantage of. Better watch out!

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  • SkullsNRoses
    1 year ago

    If you’re not in relationships why do you call them “girlfriends”? Doesn’t that signify commitment?

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  • raisinbran
    1 year ago

    Deflate two of them and store them in your closet.

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  • Tinybird
    1 year ago

    Why not just have all 3?
    Then no one's heart gets broken! And everyone wins!

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  • kikilizzo
    1 year ago

    If you're not exclusive with anyone then it's fine, and they are not your "girlfriends". They are women you are casually dating.

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  • olderdude-xx
    1 year ago

    If they are of the right attitude and disposition, and you are willing to do what it takes.... No reason you cannot keep them with their consent to be part of a poly relationship group.

    That takes effort on your part to make that work. But it can be done (I've often had 2 most of my life - virtually all in multi-years long term relationships; they all knew up front before agreeing to have sex with me that it would be a poly relationship and what the expectations and rules were; and they have usually met each other).

    If potentially interested - get and read the book: "More Than Two" by: Franklin Veaux & Eve Rickert

    However, many ladies are not up to that.

    In my case I have never gotten involved sexually with multiple ladies without them both knowing up front about the other and getting their agreement.

    I'll also say that getting permission up front and setting rules are key to making poly relationships work up front (open relationship/marriage "free for all's" virtually always fall apart).

    I wish you well with this...

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  • Youareafuckingidiot.
    1 year ago

    It’s actually normal despite what the socially challenged incels here think, dating is a trial period before an official relations. plus this is a dating app we’re talking about so your all losers to being with, nothing of value was lost.

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    • RoyyRogers
      1 year ago

      That might be true but if they are under the assumption he is only dating him, and he realizes or even considers this he should clear that up. This is why most relationships dont last.

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      • Youareafuckingidiot.
        1 year ago

        His "girlfriends" are most likely dating other dudes too.

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        • RoyyRogers
          1 year ago

          I mean if everyone is fime with the arrangement thats fine. Just its better be upfront about this sort of thing vs being intentionally dishonest. Also assuming everyone is doing what you are is a false assumption.

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  • Orphan
    1 year ago

    I'd eventually choose one as a serious gf. And the other 2 as dates/fuck friends, but they all would know

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  • mayunese
    1 year ago

    no polymory is not unnormal, but it is not normal that you cheat on them.

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  • Lusty-Argonian
    1 year ago

    Yea exactly when I started dating my ex he was like are you seeing anyone else about a month or 2 in, it completely caught me off gaurd like no of course not I'm dating you why would I?

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  • farkelu
    1 year ago

    No, it's not normal. Yes, we're all jealous. Keep up the good work!

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    1 year ago

    Start spewing lesbian propaganda to try to line up a relationship with all 3 of them at once. Ive tried it many times its never worked. Maybe you are the chosen one...

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