Is it normal i have so much rage to the father of my children?

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I know the whole hatred for you ex thing isn’t anything new but I just can’t get over the fact I had a kid with him and I ever thought I could make it work with him! Yeah, big mistake I know! I absolutely love my daughter but the growing hate I have every time I even see her father now drives me CRAZY. Is it normal to feel like if I could just run away and take my daughter with me just so we could never deal with him again I would?! I feel awful thinking it and of course would never do that but a girl can dream right? I know I can’t be the only one

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  • LloydAsher
    3 years ago

    So is he a shitty dad or is he just someone you dont like?

    Both of you brought your kid into the world. If he isnt a shit parent then give him a chance. If he is then you have the court system to work through.

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  • BatterMilk
    3 years ago

    This is tough situation considering how much this is going to impact your daughter's life. It's best to consider what's best for all parties involved. The best thing to do is to have a discussion with him and move on from there.

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  • S0UNDS_WEIRD
    3 years ago

    What's the reason you two aren't together anymore?

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    • [Old Memory]
      3 years ago

      We were together for 8 years and sort of grew apart in a way if I had to sum it up. We stopped getting along, we found we were showing interests in others and that was a concern, just sort of fizzed out so to speak and we just got to a point where we hated being around each other because we couldn’t agree on much and always started fighting because of it. Basically we met when we were younger and as we grew up and our daughter was born, we just grew apart instead of more together. He’s the kind of person who also has to let it be known that he’s doing better than you so that always started something with me and I hated it, felt like I wasn’t ever going to be good enough.

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      • S0UNDS_WEIRD
        3 years ago

        Did either of you end up cheating during all that due to the interest in others? If you did that tends to be the sort of thing that causes prolonged bickering well after splitting up and causes all sorts of fights over unrelated things.

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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago

    He’s not a shitty dad, that I can say. I guess it’s more personal for me. He’s very good at telling me “everything I’m doing wrong” or constantly bagging me for every little thing I do or don’t do. Constantly nagging so to speak. He somehow found a way to get my family on his side to the point I can’t trust anyone anymore because he’s feeding them all this info about how I’m spending my time when he’s not around or our daughter - and because it “makes everyone unhappy” I have to be harassed every other day and it’s draining! I just don’t think my family OR him should basically be treating me like a child and watching my every move just so they can tell me how awful I am every chance they get 🙄 it’s defeating man. I’m just trying to keep up with myself and take care of my daughter - no one else should be riding my ass but me myself and I about anything else in MY life. this was more or less a vent sesh for me because it’s one of those days where I just wanna scream and tell everyone to fuck off.

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    • litelander8
      3 years ago

      Girl. It’s like that sometimes. Either way, you need to watch yourself and always take the high road. If anyone decides to take you to court (it normally happens eventually) don’t give anyone a reason for things to not come out 50/50.

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      • [Old Memory]
        3 years ago

        I’m hoping court won’t happen but it’s looking like it will. I mean I’ve never had to do that before so I don’t know what to expect, it’s hard being a single mom ESP trying to find steady work in these times but when you compare the two, it just looks like he’s going to get her and that scares me so I just keep doing what I’m doing and put up with it 🤦🏻‍♀️ It’s just EXHAUSTING.

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        • litelander8
          3 years ago

          The court doesn’t want to remove a child from a parent. They want things to be equal bc that’s what’s healthiest for the child. So get your shit together and don’t let them take your baby.

          Times are definitely tough. I feel that.

          Maybe if you try to be more civil and pleasant with your baby daddy, he won’t be so hard on you. Sometimes you’ve to do a little brown nosing. And plus it will be healthier for your daughter to not be around y’all’s hostility.

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          • [Old Memory]
            3 years ago

            Thanks for the advice! Do you have kids? It’s just tough to know what’s right anymore.

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