Is it normal i like when women erode my grasp on reality?
The term 'gaslighting' refers to a type of psychological abuse in which the parent, partner, or anyone will repeatatively misrepresent truth often in subtle almost subliminal ways as a way to gain power.
The lies are often unclear and consist more of reacting in unusual ways and being very inconsistent and unclear intentionally about expectations.
Over time this can cause the abused partner to doubt their own thoughts as they are constantly being told up is down. And this can cause permanent psychological harm.
Edit: this is not due to me not being able to do better. As I have literal pornstars (empathetic ones) that enjoy flirting in DMs with me explicitly knowing I won't send them money. I also have slept with and turned down beautiful compassionate women.
But these relationships intimidate me and make me uncomfortable and feel frustrated guilty and confused. While I would also say these femme fatale women who gaslight also make me feel those things it is different because I know emotional connection with them is impossible. Because I know I can't truly connect and they will always slip away I find that so attractive for what I find myself capable of.