Is it normal i'm attracted to someone until things get real?

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I have and have had many female friends over the years, a majority of which are fairly attractive. Most if not all the time I am exponentially attracted to them when at home just thinking about what intimacy or a relationship with them would be like, but then once i look them in the eye, in person, an even deeper relationship with them freaks me out. I just can't... my mind beginnings to pick apart their psychical appearance, and their personality so i lose all interest in them. Im beginning to think i am self sabotaging myself, since there have even been occurrences when friends of mine would literally ask me out on dates and i would come up with some nonsense excuse because of my temporary lack of interest. I will have an incredible drive to ask a good looking friend out on a date while at home, but when i see them in person all is lost, this is killing my dating life, IS this normal? how can i fix this?

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  • DolphinScat2
    8 years ago

    It sounds like you like the IDEA of the person more than the person themselves. Happens all the time mate.

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  • shuggy-chan
    8 years ago

    By getting over yourself

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