Is it normal i'm pissed that they 'prayed for me'?

That sucks. I couldn't vote though because I'm not sure if I'm voting for you being pissed off or them lying.

I would say, don't react. at least don't run around fighting back. i know you want to but consider this...

she's trying to make you look bad, with a bonus of making herself look good for "praying for the sinner". If you act out against her, get spitting mad and start screaming that she's a big dumb liar ... you'll give weight to her lies. You'll show them that she was right to think you need help.

Instead of that ... tell your immediate family that it's not true, perhaps even explain what you think she's trying to do. If you think they'll listen.

For everyone else, just shrug it off. If they confront you, don't get mad - or at least don't let them see that you are. Shrug, maybe say "I don't know where that one came from." and then drop the subject. refuse to be led back to it. if they try just pretend they didn't say anything or excuse yourself politely.

Why? Because it may take some time but eventually it'll be clear that she's just lying to make you look bad.

So, some may always believe her but, others will get tired of listening to her go on and on and on about you. And some will eventually tell her to STFU and stop lying.

or in a nutshell, by refusing to react to her, you make yourself look good and make her look petty. all without saying one thing against her.

I shall pray for you, son.

You know what? If they believe the liar over you, then screw 'em. It's not like you talk to them often, as you said, so just let them believe what they will. As long as the family members you're close to believe you, well, that's all you need.

As for whether the prayer ruse is normal, I've never heard of anyone else doing that, so I have to say that it isn't normal.

Not normal, kind of creepy actually.

Ignore the bitch and the family that wont listen.

Yeah, rotten people are present in all tribes, and religion is just a tribe. Just because they are religious does not mean they are automatically good people.

the person who did this was a snake in the grass :) ~ don't care about it ... they are their own worst enemy's

This (and other reasons) is exactly why they do not want you to engage in repetitious ceremonial behaviour. It is obvious that this person that you speak of does not understand our relationship with them. If they understood the actual nature of these creatures, then they would discontinue this behaviour.

I know all about this stuff, I'm 3hrs away from the family and I have a brother an hr over from where I am that sees them all the time. They come up and stay at his place. If anyone comes over to mine it's either from his place first where they're staying a few days - and then back over after they see me , or they come here for an hr or two then go over to his place for a few days. He'll put in any amount of work he has to to have them stay.
Then they all sit around like chooks in a hen house - talking bout me I'm sure of it.
Funny thing is he won't say a bad word about anyone else yet seems to love a gossip about me.Had a lot of stuff come back to me over the 3 yrs I've been here, sure it's always going on.
I hardly see any of them I'm just not into it that much and like having my own little world over here.
Like I don't want them staying and I always guard against it but , I know this'll be going on if I don't.
F'n hate this bs and got better things to do than constantly go round straightening out any shit, I dunno. I'd like them to just drop in from time to time on a one to one basis bc I hardly see any of them but I could never do the stay thing or compete with him on all that , not even interested.
Yep your doing what I just try to do tho , I just try to get a word in on anything I've heard to one or two that I'm sort of close to if I do see one of them , which is usually over at his place anyway and hope for the best. Apart from that I'm not really sure what else to do.
I really don't see any of them more than a few hrs every yr or two- he spends mths with them all on a one to one every yr.
I'm not jealous of that , I could never be f'd doing that with them all . he'll go to any lengths , God know why I've got a life to live myself.
I just hate this side of it it all tho. Sorry I don't really have any better suggestions , I'm still trying to figure it out.
But yeah I reckon it is normal , give people an inch and they'll take a mile - even beloved family.

Some people r total douche bags... Just ignore them or get even

I despise *anyone* that "prays" for me. Even if their reasoning is valid, nobody has the fucking right to put me in their prayers.
You're perfectly normal for not wanting to be prayed for, ESPECIALLY if they make up some wacky story in order to "pray" for you, since they're only doing it to spread rumours about you to each other!

It depends on how much you want to defend your reputation as to how far you will go. I have a sil that has spread very ugly untrue gossip about me. I found out years later and I was livid. I wanted to defend myself right away but my husband told me just to say nothing so I wouldn't rock the family boat. Well I finally sent her a letter and told her she owed me an apology and she knew what she did was wrong. I never heard back from her and since I don't have to see her but every 5 years or so it doesn't surprise me. A lying witch will always be a miserable lying witch in my opinion.

Fuck family

Confront the family member that did this whole thing. You could find out why, and get to the bottom of it. And it could be quite entertaining!

I don't think that making up a heartless story and disguising it as prayer for you is normal, even in the Bible Belt.

I think all you can do - if at all possible - is prove the bullshitter wrong, but without lashing out at them (That'll make you look bad even though you and I know you're the truthful one here).

Living well is the best revenge, so I've heard.

normal i feel ya bro

When it comes to believing things, people tend to believe the bullshit more often then the actual truth.
No, this is not normal. And I advice you to confront the bullshit artist.

Its not normal. They are screwed in the head and need to be bitch-slapped straight. Either leave it in karmas hands OR why don't you do something about it. *evil smile

I don't think that it has shit to do with prayer, I think that they were just being a nasty person. But I understand where you are coming from. I also have family members that love drama and live for it because their lives are so miserable and they spent 40+ years dicking around with their lives. In due time, your drama will wear off as they find another "drama" to serve as a catalyst for their misery.

Obviously these people have problems that they would attach God's name to something so horrid as to defame their own blood. If you're going to be a shitty person, there's no need to drag other factors into it. But then again, that's exactly what shitty people do, haha.

What a bitch! You really need to watch yourself incase she tries to pull more of this bullshit. This is really creepy. Until, you can get this settled maybe you should cut off contact or stay with a friend and alert them to the situation. Don't let this get out of hand, if things get really crazy get a restraining order.

Good Luck!

People will always believe the bullshit artist I dont know why. I have just eneded a five year friendship with one of these dramatic people because they do nothing but cause trouble. If you dont talk to these people much I wouldnt worry about it theyll believe what they wabt to regardless of hat you tell them. You are better of without idiots like these