Is it normal i really don't like my husband as a person?
I need to get this off my chest.
For the last maybe 10 years I think I've disliked my husband more and more. I'm not perfect but he is a belligerent angry sort who is racist and homophobic and loves to blame and belittle me and complain every chance he gets.
What really set me off is I watched a documentary about women in Africa and how many of them have problems with childbirth and obstetric care. He said it's all their own fault for being " shitty and barbaric culture" and we shouldn't try to help them with money or aid. He also says I shouldn't volunteer because it's a waste of time.
He also hates gays trans etc and is generally racist. He always looks to blame others for his anger whether driving, at work at home etc. When I get mad at him he says I'm crazy or not right in the head. He claims he's not a bad person because he works and supports us(I work too) and " put up with me when I went crazy"(depression).
If I were financially stable I'd have left years ago. I gave zero interest in sex of course if I do it's just so he doesn't nope and whine.
Are there a lot of you who dislike their spouse but don't leave for whatever reason? Please be honest.