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I didn’t ask to be born into this world, and I feel like I haven’t done much good for it. I’m not suicidal and my friends seem to like me, but I sometimes feel like I’ve been a total waste and that I don’t deserve life. I’m very adamant I don’t want to have any children, partially because I feel like they’d feel the same.
Yes, that's the way it is, and it's you put there on purpose because your parents wanted to start family, you're there to be family, you have no other uses, most of us are just there to be part of the family, it's a miracle you can even use the internet and whinge.
While you guys are counting stars, or maybe not, I'll be counting money. Your purpose is there right now, to write on the "normal" website, where I say it's normal, I didn't ask for a coffee-sleeping, not-high-fiving, refusing-to-listen mother, but she's there, the parents wished you here so here you are, complaining about the fact that you were made so now we're here to love you as much as ever. 💕
Very common feeling amongst young people.
You just need to realise that the idea of doing good for the world or “amounting to something” is just a certain way some people choose to spend their time, nothing more. A weight will be lifted when you realise it’s all just filling in time however you choose to do so. That’s all life is for everyone, no matter how much they may delude themselves into thinking otherwise. Don’t compare yourself to others, don’t worry about your place in the world, just do as you will.
I understand your point, but I wouldn't resent your parents for it. They didn't intend any harm, and they wouldn't have had you if they'd have known you would've been against it. And they love you, so resenting them wouldn't do anyone any good.
Even though you didn't choose to be born, you're here now and just need to make the best of it. I think the worst thing you're doing right now, that could possibly justify saying you don't deserve life, is being that hard on yourself. If you want to feel like you've earned life, then start working on being kinder to yourself.
Your post is a 100% accurate description of my life. So i guess it is normal.
Yeah I’ve felt like that sometimes but in a more obscure, less direct way. I’ve overburdened my parents in the past with my problems and it’s always felt to me like I’ve been subliminally filing complaints to those responsible for my existence