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Not that I wish it was shit, just that I had done a few more things or had a few more responsibilities. Like anyone else’s, it had its ups and downs, but I feel like I was given so little responsibilities that now in my early adulthood they’re coming at me so fast and I just don’t know what to do.
For sure. Children used to be vital to keeping a household running. Now kids just sit on their asses with $400 video games they don’t deserve.
I wholeheartedly agree with this.
We produce a lot of our own food (growing veg, keeping chickens, preserving foods, baking bread etc) and my kids help us with a lot of this. They are only little so the jobs are small and simple -stuff like watering plants, passing tools over to me, labelling preserve jars, throwing some food to the chickens, that sort of thing.
You wouldn't believe how many parents I have encountered who have accused me of child abuse. They say it's cruel and miserable to expect children to help out with yard work or cooking. Apparently I should be bringing them snacks and telling them that sitting on their arse doing nothing and getting fat is totally fine, and that mummy and daddy will do everything for them so there's no need to lift a finger.
I don't get them to help me because I can't be bothered to do it myself. They're just little kids for fuck's sake, they aren't doing anything of any real use anyway. They aren't exactly efficient workers. I get them to help because it is good for their mental and physical health, and because it builds character and teaches them life skills. They still have most of their day free to do whatever they like. Funnily enough, they tend to want to play outside and interact with the animals for most of the daylight hours.
I can't stand seeing people spoil their kids into being fat little entitled brats. It's so unfair because it's not the kid's fault at all.
Haha yup. I remember when I was kid I was outside working. Fencing was my favorite of the chores.
I can absolutely relate to this feeling. I also had a very normal almost idyllic childhood - nobody died, nobody touched me etc, I was allowed to be a child for as long as possible and I never wanted for much (not that I didn't have issues). But now as an adult there's a lot of negative stuff that goes down and I have a theory that there's a universal balance that has to be met, so if you had a good childhood life kinda gets you as a grownup and vice versa.
I ran the household from the time I can remember. Cooking, shopping, cleaning, laundry. My household was abusive as fuck but I am grateful that I learned to survive at an early age. I just wish all the mental issues that come with an abusive upbringing didn't go along with it. (The abuse was not from doing the things I mentioned)
Yeah it sucks but that's suburban America for you. Welcome to the real world.
I dunno... my parents made us work our asses off as kids and I grew up to be extremely complacent as a young adult, not being forced to work anymore after college (until I ran out of money)... so it could go either way.
I'm grateful what I had, and honestly can't imagine why I would want for things to be worse than they were.
Mainly because I wasn’t prepared for the bad stuff (ok, maybe not “bad” but the more difficult stuff)
More so doing things on my own. I never had to do chores growing up and I’m worried I might not know how to live on my own.
I didn't have to do a lot of chores growing up, and I live by myself. Yes, I'm lazy, but learning how to do mundane household chores isn't rocket science. I used to do load, and unload the dishwasher, and that was alright, but I didn't enjoy it of course. I also mowed the lawn, and that was cool cause I got paid to mow the lawn.
The estate I grew up in in northern Ireland, I used to get into at least one fight every day. We used to have battles against the kids from the next estate over with stones etc. The whole place was full of burnt out cars and if the cops dared to show up they got pelted with bricks and bottles. I turned out ok and haven't been in a fight in years but at least I know I can handle it if something does kick off.