Is it normal i still grieve for my cat?

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About 2 months ago, my beloved cat was mauled and killed by some dogs that live next door. I had to bury him myself. I still feel so sad about it, and I still miss him and think about him a lot. He was such a sweet kitty, and he was killed at such a young age. Is it normal to grieve and feel so upset about losing a pet? And how do I get over the pain of missing him?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Normal. If that happened to one of my cats my neighbor wouldnt have dogs anymore.

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    • daydreamer394
      9 years ago

      You don't deserve animals you fucking psychopath.

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      • CountessDouche
        9 years ago

        He's not a psychopath, and from reading his posts...I can tell he cares about his pets. He had the same response that most people would have if their pet was mauled. It's easy to hate those dogs rather then blame the owner for not training his dogs properly, and allowing them to become aggressive. When dogs are aggressive towards other people and animals for no reason, then the problem is the owner. IMO, bugs is right. That person shouldn't have dogs, period.

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        • daydreamer394
          9 years ago

          His pets don't dominate the world; you're trying to justify the murder of dogs who were mistreated? My god, if I knew you people in real life...

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          • CountessDouche
            9 years ago

            You're misreading my comment. Read my other comment below. I'm saying it's wrong to blame the dogs. I also contend that it is the responsibility of the owner to train his dogs properly and not mistreat them. Judging by the fact that these dogs are not only aggressive towards other animals, but people as well, this neighbor should not be a dog owner, as he/she is obviously mistreating the dogs.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        I would never condone animal cruelty but when someone has pets acting that violent for no reason something has to be done about it. It is not normal for dogs to act that way. I have had dogs and cats living together many times and that never happens. I agree too it is a bad owner. Maybe the owner should be put down instead.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I really hate their dogs with a passion, but there's not really anything I can do to get revenge. Those dogs tried to attack me once too, so they're both animal and people-aggressive.

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      • CanadianCowboy
        9 years ago

        File a complaint to your town/city about this problem

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      • Arm0se
        9 years ago

        poison?

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Can't you call animal control on your neighbor's dogs if and when they're running loose?

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    It's totally normal to be attached to your pet. I'm definitely over attached to my cat. I really bonded with her, mostly because she was an abused rescue, and it took months and months to get her to trust me, and once she did, it just felt kinda special.

    She has to live at a family members house right now, and that's hard for me...not to mention the fact that I'm pretty sure I'm moving to another country, and I don't know if I can take her with me...I'd love to for selfish reasons, but probably won't be able to, as it would be traumatizing for her to travel that far. I'll MISS her all the time, though.

    It's really hard to lose a pet, and it's normal to grieve. Maybe you can take comfort in the fact that there are so many poor animals that are mistreated and abused, and your cat had a happy life, and lots of love.

    I know...it's still hard. I'm sorry for your loss.

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    • CountessDouche
      9 years ago

      Also, as far as your neighbors dogs go...it's normal to be angry, but you shouldn't hate the dogs, maybe hate the owner for not taking care of them, or training them correctly, or possibly abusing them (who knows why they're so aggressive).

      Most dogs are gentle, if trained correctly. There's probably a reason why they are so aggressive, and I guarantee you that's an owner problem, and not a dog problem.

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      • pixie44
        9 years ago

        Yea and some dogs (and some cats) "play" with other animals and will accidentally kill them. I know my cat would always bring small rabbits and chipmunks to me and I'd have to yell at him to let the poor things go. Fortunately he didn't kill any of them.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    It was something you loved. Something you poured your heart into. It makes sense that your heart is broken. *Lights a blunt* Here's to your kitty chasing that big cheese wheel up in the sky.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    If you are STILL grieving, know that this sounds like it was very traumatic! I would moirn greatly myself if my beloved cats death wasnt as peaceful as i would have liked it to be. It will always hurt, but you move through it. I hope today, you smile and think about the precious cat you loved so much instead of mourning. :) you loved that kitty! And what you did during his life is what matters

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Yes. My old dog died over 2 years ago and I'm still sad.

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  • Mytwin295
    9 years ago

    my dog died from bladder cancer while I was away at summer camp in 7th grade. my parents coped with it by adopting another dog... while this cat will still be in your heart, you should get another cat.

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  • randypete
    9 years ago

    they are like family i lost my cat 2 years ago he was my mate i still miss him alot

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  • Aliceee93
    9 years ago

    Of course its normal.
    Ive lost many pets. And a time always comes I have to say bye to every cow I have reared from birth. Different, you have to get used to it being a farmer, but some cows are special, like one I saved which recently died. That broke me :(

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    • daydreamer394
      9 years ago

      How surprising to find someone like me. I live on a farm and I make friends with the cows all the time (I know I shouldn't, but sometimes I see them as big dogs). There are many deaths, or we have to sell them :(

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      • Aliceee93
        9 years ago

        Really? Where are you from? It is hard not to get attached :( specially when you rear them all

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        • daydreamer394
          9 years ago

          Well yeah, I've been to markets and (understandably, but nonetheless sad) they are just seen as profit; cargo. But they all each have their own character.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    A few years ago, not but a week before I graduated high school, a tom I had had since pre-school died (I originally planned on taking pictures with him the day of my graduation). Though I didn't necessarily grieve myself to sleep over him, for months afterwards, he haunted my dreams, as I would often dream that I would "find" him, only to return home with a completely different cat. I've gotten over him, though I've acquired two cats since.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    Im so sorry:( I love my cat and would be devastated if something happened to him.
    My advice is to get another cat as soon as possible, no it wont replace the cat you lot but you can focus on another animal to love. And don't allow this one outside, house cats live a lot longer and are healthier. If you don't ever let him outside he wont know what hes missing.
    As for the dogs, its a shame that they killed your pet but its in their nature, blame the owner not the dogs if the owner let them run free.

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  • ClaireM
    9 years ago

    still cry for my oscar, he always knew when i was in pain & would lie next to my leg & put his head on my hip. gorgeous boy.

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  • Shrunk
    9 years ago

    give those dogs some chocolate... =/

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  • WhoYouCallinPinhead
    9 years ago

    Yes. It was your pet and possibly even your friend. Some people grieve for far longer over the loss of a pet. I'd know I would.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    that must have been devastating , i spose being a cat it wandered into the dog's yard?

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    9 years ago

    whats stoppin yall from gittin a new kitty?

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