Is it normal i wish i weren’t mixxed

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I’m half Norwegian and half Chinese, living in Norway.

I believe that I am quite handsome as I have got a lot of attention for my looks both locally and abroad. I’m as tall as the local guys (180+ cm), scholarly looking with a quite refined style.

Local girls use to tell me that I’m very handsome for an Asian. Even though I’m only 50% Asian, people here keep labeling me as one. I don’t mind at all what I get labeled as if I was treated the same as everyone else.

Whenever I ask out a local, I get politely rejected and told ”sorry, I’m not into Asian guys”. Due to the constant rejection by locals (both in person and online), I have only been on one date during the last 5 years (and it was with a Chinese exchange student). That date of course failed as I don’t speak Chinese and she barely got around with her English.

This makes me often wish that I weren’t born mixed. I get treated as an outsider even though I’m born and raised in Norway and I’m 100% native in Norwegian.

I will just have to accept a life of rejection and accept the fate of having to die alone.

I wish that I was born a full blood in any first word country. It doesn’t matter if I’m White, Black, Asian or any other ethnicity, as long as I’m born as an insider in the country and not be destined to be an outsider wherever I go.

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techpc

2 years ago

I hesitate to call racial preferences racist. You can't help what you are attracted to, but I do agree that saying "you're handsome for an asian" is insensitive at best.

Keep looking bro, there's a 0% chance that nobody out there will date you.

Maybe you are not actually that handsome, and you are going for girls out of your league? How hot are the women you go after?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  I would agree with you if it weren’t for me not getting any likes at all from locals.
  
  Generally I don’t look for “hot girls”. I look for intellectual girls with personality.
  
  Girls also tend to value resources/income higher than guys do, which is an area that I am doing very well in, as a dentist with my own clinic.
  
  Online dating is good at revealing the truth as something is really strange when I don’t even get a single like from any locals
  
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mouldiwarp

2 years ago

Not your fault that other people have racist preferences, nothing is wrong with you

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  Thanks mate, this really means a lot to me!
  
  Unfortunately male mixed people such as myself will always be victims to racist preferences. I completely understand why the locals have their preferences though, as I probably would be thinking the same way as them if I were in their shoes.
  
  Life is unfair, I’ll just need to count my blessings such as being born healthy without disabilities and accept the fate of loneliness
  
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Somenormie

2 years ago

Hey man just to let you know that I'm sorta in the same boat as you, except I'm half black and half west Indies whenever I go trying to go out with a local girl I know off I'm often rejected, I get rejected thousands of times, I sometimes wonder am I some outsider? I sometimes wish the same thing of me being a different race but I feel like I need to kinda accept it, my last date didn't work out as I got left for someone else. I'm there like " Maybe I am not the one, I was destined to be rejected by women ", tried dating apps but when someone likes me I get rejected, rejection for me feels like I need to move on. I also have a feeling where I feel like I've been destined to be single and not be together with anyone.

Rejection just feels like one cold truth and the way it punches me is a little brutal.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  Hey bro,
  
  It sure sucks for people like us.
  
  Both black and west indie men are very masculine though. Be proud bro 👍
  
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  - Somenormie
    
    2 years ago
    
    Thanks bro,
    
    I appreciate that.
    
    I still haven't given up hopes that one day a girl will be into me. I sense she's probably roaming around the lands looking for me.
    
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Meowypowers

2 years ago

Most of the time people that are in free societies love different races than the norms. Scandinavian people generally love people of color in my experience. Maybe your personality is lacking?

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KholatKhult

2 years ago

Yeah. It’s not /just/ because you’re mixed.
Your attitude seems pretty icky. Work on that

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  I would agree with you on that it could be soft skill related if it weren’t for my results on dating apps (such as Tinder/Facebook dating) where all locals reject me without getting to know me.
  
  I had a sharp profile, with good pictures and a catchy bio made by a professional dating coach. After a couple of days, I had only 12 likes where 6 were bots and the rest were Asians using the passport feature (and located at the other side of the earth).
  
  This indicates that my profile had good visibility, but none of the locals swiped yes on me.
  
  Meanwhile, my Norwegian friend with no bio and bad pictures had over 40 likes within a similar timespan
  
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  - KholatKhult
    
    2 years ago
    
    What did your bio say ?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      2 years ago
      
      My bio is in Norwegian. This is a rough translation of it:
      
      I am neither Harry Potter nor Bruce Lee, yet people always tell me that I look like a mix of these two. 😂😅
      
      I am ambitious, caring and have a good sense of humor.
      
      During my spare time, I enjoy traveling, PC gaming and spending time with friends.
      
      Looking for a soulmate to laugh, smile and explore the world with.
      
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Tommythecaty

2 years ago

Everyone is wildly mixed.

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SouthernWeirdBroker

2 years ago

Buying doge coin will cheer you up.

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Ummitsstillme

2 years ago

In Norway? I'm pretty shocked. Asians are quite popular in most western places. Are you sure people are not into you because you're mixed or are they perhaps just not into you and you are attributing it to your ethnicity?

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newnormal

2 years ago

This is the reason you shouldn't mix things up. Specially black and white as the black gene is stronger the result is almost a black child with little to no white gene.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  If you’re black, eastern european or from the south, yes they will throw themselves over you. All of these are more masculine than an Asian mix, such as myself.
  
  People reject me before even getting to know me based on that I get 0 likes from locals online.
  
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  - newnormal
    
    2 years ago
    
    No you got me wrong. A mix of white and black is not good. Maybe women see anything black as having a huge dick.
    
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jethro

2 years ago

Well then just move to an Asian country and your problem will be solved.

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DADNSCAL

2 years ago

It must be tough. I can only imagine. But stay in there and you’ll find someone more open minded and tolerant. Why don’t you try a dating site, and be truthful with your stats, so there’s nothing to hide.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  Thanks mate, trust me, I have tried.
  
  The only people I match with on dating sites are bots, scammers and sketchy profiles that are 9000+ km away. Never had a single like from a local. :(
  
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  - DADNSCAL
    
    2 years ago
    
    Then is it possible for you to move?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      2 years ago
      
      Unfortunately I can’t as my dad had an accident a couple of years ago so I ditched my plans of moving elsewhere and moved to an apartment close to my folk’s place to lend a hand from time to time.
      
      I wouldn’t mind moving if my folks were well and able to get around on their own, but due to circumstances, it would feel bad to not watch over them
      
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1WeirdGuy

2 years ago

Unfortunately a lot of mixed people face these issues..

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  2 years ago
  
  True, but mainly if they are male.
  
  Guys will always be interested in girls regardless of their mix or origin these days, but unfortunately the reverse aren’t true.
  
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  - 1WeirdGuy
    
    2 years ago
    
    I think that too yeah. If a girl is attractive Id care less what race they are but girls seem to care more
    
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