Is it normal i worry about getting old and not being able to take care of myself?

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I find myself more and more worrying about how I might become a burden on other people, that I might have a stroke, that I might need to wear diapers when i get old. I am afraid of dying, but also afraid of living like that. I am not old, or young. It might have something to do with my kids going off to university. But it sometimes keeps me up at night, or makes me feel all panic stricken.

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  • jethro
    4 years ago

    Well sooner or later you are going to need Depends. And you will eventually be all alone and a burden on someone. Either family or the public. So when you get to the point that you are pooping and peeing your pants on a daily basis, just go and rob a bank. The government will take care of you for the last 20 years of your life and you won't be alone either.

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  • DIO
    4 years ago

    Do sports, eat well, meditate, take care of your health and you won't be a burden to anyone.
    Look at old japanese people for example.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Diapers are sexy! What you on about?

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    • [Old Memory]
      4 years ago

      What’s with you and little kids again?

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      • charli.m
        4 years ago

        And he's not even the one that thinks adoption is where you get a free completely non psychologically or situationally fucked up kid with your happy meal...

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        • [Old Memory]
          4 years ago

          So many people here so fucked in the head

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      • Doesnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Kids? What do you mean again? I stand by my claim, diapers are very sexy.

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        • LloydAsher
          4 years ago

          Your sexual fixations know no bounds do they?

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          • Doesnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            Is that supposed to be a kinky joke? If so, than I know many bounds! The two no-nos I can think of off hand are gay shit and cock and ball torcher. I don't wanna my genitals being hurt during D/S play but anywhere else is fine. Threesomes could be the other common kink I don't think I like the idea of.

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    • leggs91200
      4 years ago

      Oh boy. I would bet money that such a fetish is probably one of the more tame things in your video collection.

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      • Doesnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Video collection? I haven't made porn (yet). But its hard to compare it as a fetish because hopefully its not JUST diapers. Their value comes about in combination with other things. Its diapers and something else that's sexy like bondage and an enema first for example.

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    • zarabell
      4 years ago

      hahahaha woat

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      • Doesnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        You heard me!

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  • Plapp
    4 years ago

    We just have to hope we are among the lucky ones who die before that happens. Im positive that assisted termination of life will be legal worldwide in few decades, most of us will in the near future be allowed to die a worthy death when staying alive becomes too much of a struggle.

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  • McBean
    4 years ago

    Google up "self care in old age". And, don't worry about social isolation. Just make friends on social media like our IIN website. You can safely associate with creeps and weirdos. It's fun to do.

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  • leggs91200
    4 years ago

    So you are worried about getting old because the kids went off to college?
    Let me fill you in on a little secret - Your life has JUST begun! You may not be young in years but your life starts now that the kids are gone.

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  • JustAHuman
    4 years ago

    I'm worried about the same thing. But I never got married and don't have kids. I will have no one to take care of me.

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    • Ellenna
      4 years ago

      Getting married and having children is no guarantee any of them will care for you in old age: you could end up caring for your partner or have children who can't or won't look after you - nursing homes are full of people in that situation

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    The solution is to kill yourself before you get old so you won’t have to worry about it.

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  • zarabell
    4 years ago

    it is normal. and after all humans are supposed to live in closed societies, where the young and middle-aged take care of the old. why should everyone be living by themselves anyway?? it completely depends on what you want!

    maybe you'd want to go off by yourself, living alone, or with a partner, until your end. some older people chose to go on "bucket trips" as I will call them here, but you can never chose exactly when or how your end will come. what's the point really, other than enjoying yourself until the end. do whatever you can to that end

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago

    If you're still young that sounds quite phobic. It's normal to not want to be old and dependant (I know, I'm already old and in some ways dependant on others for some things) but for fear about it to take over your life isn't normal.

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  • LloydAsher
    4 years ago

    Well that's why you get yourself some kids and treat them right so that they have some gratitude and take care of you as you did with them.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I am sure they will, they are wonderful kids. I just don't want to be that burden. I saw my mother lose herself caring for my ailing father for years.

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      • LloydAsher
        4 years ago

        Well suicide is an option if you develop alzheimers. That's the option I would do honestly.

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        • Ellenna
          4 years ago

          Where I live (Victoria, Australia) the state government recently introduced voluntary euthanasia legislation, but with lots of regulations and safeguards, for example, you have to have less than 6 months to live with a terminal illness (2 maybe 3 doctor verified) and it doesn't apply to dementia. I've signed documentation not to be kept alive if I can't communicate and am doubly incontinent, which is legally binding except where right to life doctors & nurses are involved, they can go against it.

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          • LloydAsher
            4 years ago

            Naw fuck it I'm not having my doctor verify wanting to put myself down like a dog. 12 gauge in mouth tied to pulley with ignition on my funeral pyre. Die with some dignity, class and family gets to keep the shotgun.

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        • [Old Memory]
          4 years ago

          Yeah. I consider euthanasia to be a completely legitimate and respectable way to die, especially in old age, when it really becomes apparent just how astride the grave you are anyway.

          You just set your affairs in order, say your goodbyes, and go with dignity, because you're going soon anyway.

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        • [Old Memory]
          4 years ago

          It’s not “nice,” but I agree with you, and I chose it for myself instead of roaming and dedicating myself for years, unable to recognize my loved you.

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