Is it normal if i don't know how to grow up?

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How do you grow up? I'm having a hard time trying to figure things out. I'm 24 years old, female and just trying to be as mature as possible and grow up. I grew up in a nice family household so before it's too late I wanna grow up. But how? I'm trying the best I can but it doesn't seem to be working. I'm trying to look for a job that will make me more well rounded and obviously be an adult. I sound like I'm in a rush which I know I shouldn't be. I'm young and free, these are the best years but I notice reality is hitting me and I need to grow up. Being an adult sucks but at the same time I think it'll feel good to have your own things and know you can take care of yourself. Only mature answers please

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  • VirgilManly
    7 years ago

    Just wing it and pretend you know what you're doing. Trust me, that's what everyone else does.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Idk that's what I've been doing but the truth comes out and it shows I haven't grown up

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    Good luck, in 48 and still haven't gotten this whole "Adult" thing worked out yet.

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Experience. First, get a job, anywhere is fine.

    Jobs, especially a dead end mimiunm wage job full of people of all ages and backgrounds, will help you learn fast. The gossiping, the rumors, the egos, the flirting, and more. It'll all test your patience and make you more assertive over time. Becoming assertive and understanding people happens gradually while working, so you will make mistakes and trust the wrong people at first. It's okay, because if you neither disclose any personal information about yourself (and they will ask, a lot), nor say anything offensive, it never gets serious, just annoying. If you do get a job, my advice is to be yourself, get to know your boss, and always ask questions before doing anything.

    No worries, you're a grown up already, just got to get that experience so you can relate to those around you and understand what it means to work hard. Also, always get your education so you aim for a career, and not waste your life being a grocery store clerk or something.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I completely agree with you thank you for this! Wow I just wanted to hear clear, get to the point advice. What's funny is this is literally what I tell myself but thought maybe I'm being too hard on myself and that's not how it's done but it seems like I was on track. That's why I mentioned I need to get a job, I think having regular job like you said will make me more disciplined and well rounded. The thing is I graduated already, I know what I want to do as a career but I've never had like a real minimum wage job and I feel like that will help me get to where I wanna get to even more. It just looks like I'm taking a few steps backwards...but if it's for my own good then I'll have to do it. Another thing is I'm old enough already to have experience but I don't so no one wants to hire me. The struggle is pretty real

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        No worries, I started working at 24 too.

        If you live in the US, learn about job assessment test and how to answer illegal interview questions. The assessment test helps you get the interview, but because you've never worked until now, you may get hit with the illegal question of, "How old are you?" If you answer truthfully, it's followed with, "Why haven't you worked sooner? My first job was at 14 (more or less)." Hopefully, you won't encounter such rudiness and doubt, but it's good to be prepared. You may fail a few interviews (hopefully not), but eventually someone will give you a chance.

        Also, if possible, do internship for your field if you haven't already, or try volenteer work associated with your career. Working does boost your social skills and such, but if your career choice requires experience like that, it maybe good to see if you can do that first before going for the job.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          Ive gone to a million interviews and havent landed a job. I think it's clear I have no experience. It's annoying cause how do you expect to have experience if you're not gonna give me a chance? Especially with internships. Ive done internships in my field, not get paid, Im there to learn. Im going in knowing nothing and so far my internship experience has been crap. They dont wanna train you, they want you to have talent and contribute it to their business without paying you. So I think they kind of get discouraged when they see I have no skills, well teach me! Thats what an internship is for plus being in my position, not working prior makes it harder.

          Do I just google the job assessment and study the questions?

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          • Tealights
            7 years ago

            Nah. Just Google videos on it. It's not about memorizing questions, but more about learning how to understand and answer them correctly, because the test will tell you to answer "truthfully" but you won't get the job if you do.

            You got this, I wish you luck on your new job. Don't let your coworkers drive you crazy. Lol

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              7 years ago

              That's something I'm scared of. I'm used to working from home and I'm not exactly the easiest to get along with so being surrounded by coworkers is gonna cause some anxiety. I don't know how to achieve being normal around a social environment

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    Just be yourself sweety. You sound already grown up but not sure of yourself. It's totally normal at your age.

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  • _Mehhhh_
    7 years ago

    22 and still working it out. I don't know whether I'm coming or going most days.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I know it's a normal thing for people in their younger twenties to go through this. It feels like the end of the world even tho "we're so young." Time flies. But I have to say 22 was my best year so far. I felt old mature enough for my age but not the pressure to be an "adult." It was the best

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      • _Mehhhh_
        7 years ago

        Kinda the opposite for me, my Dad died last year and I've been feeling, in ways, kinda lost since.

        I want to move out of my Mom's house because I hate her asshole fucking new boyfriend, but money.

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  • Kookulainamus
    7 years ago

    When you are not grown up, you don't know what the destination you are striving for is like. Possibly, you could emulate someone that you thought was mature and exemplary. You will have to judge people with tolerance and an open mind. Remember there are 16 different basic kinds of personalities (Myers-Briggs).

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