Is it normal if i feel robbed by my sibling?

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I feel robbed by my sibling because she is doing what I have always been interested in and what I would do. My bf even says "I would imagine you doing that, too." Im glad he recognized that as opposed to saying "you'll never do that." She is older than me and I'm in my early 20s, so the way I'm seeing it is I have time to do that stuff cause right now, Im focusing on getting a job and then possibly joining that field of interest. The thing I extremely fear and get super frustrated by is when I do do it, itll seem as if I'm copying or following her footsteps when really I have always been interested in the field. Verbally speaking up like "oh no I have always been into this..." seems a little like thirsty or desperate to be recognized when I should just go for it and not care what anyone thinks. However, I do care if people see me as copycat when thats not the case at all. I just feel robbed and incomplete as if Im supposed to be doing what she is doing. I remember I went to a gym class and the instructor said her sister does the same thing too but did it first when she's been into the industry more than her. So I was relieved like okay, she is also in my position and look at her now. So I guess I just have to suck it up, do me, and when its my turn, itll be my turn, not that I copied her.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I'm not trying to be mean but the fact that you are concerned about that shows your age. Trust me no one cares that you will be going into the same thing as your sibling and as a matter of fact it is a benefit to you. If you have any questions on certain matters your sibling has been there done that.

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  • modernism
    8 years ago

    Who cares if she did whatever you wanted to first? It's not like you can change anything.

    I'd say to stop complaining about the inevitable - she's always going to be older than you, hence there is more of a chance of her reaching her goals first.

    But don't let that blur your own vision - regardless if it's the same. You're not forever tied to your sibling, at least not socially. You're an individual - your own person. Realize that. The only person you should be comparing yourself to is your own reflection.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Well I mean its not that simple. Thats how I see it like don't compare me to my sibling because I am me, but unfortunately in reality, people are gonna see it that way and all I can do is be strong enough to not let their closed-mindedness bother me even though it does.

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      • modernism
        8 years ago

        There's not much you can do about that besides change your mindset. There are going to be people who compare you but there also will be people who don't. Have to choose what side to give the time of day.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    If it makes you feel any better , even if you didn't have an older sister , someone still did it already . No matter what she does you are "copying" someone if that's how you choose to view it but if not , I hope it at least offers a new perspective . I wouldn't feel robbed I would feel closer to her :) you are a team both contributing to the same cause . It's not her fault and she has done nothing wrong .

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    It might be possible to respond to your post if you could tell us clearly what you're actually talking about. What is this "it" or "stuff" of "field"?

    A lot of words about nothing much as far as I can tell

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