Is it normal in heignsight i feel bad i never really bought her anything?

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24f here ..I had a close friend and I loved her to pieces, I really did.

I was afraid she didn't care about me as much as I did her and tbh I am pretty certain she didn't care as deeply as I did. Anyway I sometimes regret I never bought her anything in the 5 years I knew her ..
I mean I did once buy her a green stone necklace but that was when I was 16...and since then I never just randomly bought her anything.

A part of me was afraid to show her a lot of affection through gifts because I didn't want her to think I was trying to buy the friendship if you see where I'm coming from? Another part of me thought that I didn't want her to see how much I really cared for her out of fear of her not feeling the same. I also thought maybe it's gay or lame to buy her things.

Maybe I'm over thinking here but I do regret not spoiling her on her birthday..

She wasn't even a great friend and it's not like she bought me anything either which hurt so I just didn't want to make myself more vulnerable because I already had feelings for this girl -_-

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    I don't find any reason for buying stuff to friends. In fact it adds some tension in there. If you wanted her to be your partner, that might have been a thing, but you mentioned she didn't want it, so it would have been a complete waste of money. In any case, it's good that you didn't. No regrets.

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  • fakeaccount2
    6 years ago

    LOL I remember you , i think. Lesbian that regretted losing your gf a long time ago right? You've posted several times about it? No offense, just a bit interesting to recognize. Didn't really read the post tho, too long. btw, wtf is heignsight?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Not exactly...I mean I'm not a lesbian and never had a gf but I have posted many times different situations relating to this girl

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      • fakeaccount2
        6 years ago

        Yeah, your "crush"

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    6 years ago

    Personally I'd hate it if I had a friend who was buying me stuff cos then I'd feel like I'd have to buy them stuff, so maybe she was glad you didn't.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      aw okay well everyone is different so I don't know how she really felt about it tbh

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  • CDmale4fem
    6 years ago

    Maybe she was feeling same as you ? She could have been in love with you and afraid to show it for fear of rejection. Or anything like that or she felt how you felt.And yea, what happened to her ?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I wish, however I eventually did confess and she didn't feel the same

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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    What happened to her

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      No longer friends because she broke my heart and more than once

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      • CDmale4fem
        6 years ago

        I've had that happen a few times. My problem is I trust and get to close to people and then get the old bend over BOHICA.= Bend over, here it cums again.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          How do you mean bend over lol?

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          • CDmale4fem
            6 years ago

            Pretty much what went thru your mind, was what I meant. It was gonna be a good screwing, as in bend over the back of the couch, you are about to get screwed.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              6 years ago

              Wtf..Why are we talking about screwing/sex...

              yes I was screwed but not in a sexual way unfortunately lol

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