Is it normal my asexual and aromantic friends are always so bitter and angry?

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They're mostly internet friends. Everytime we message each other or call, they always seem so bitter. From what I've noticed the asexual people are pissed because no one wants a relationship with them because they wont have sex. The people who identify as aromantic people seem pissed off about not finding anyone attractive. They always get to this point where they compensate for being lonely by developing a superiority complex and look down on happy couples. They seem to have more tolerance toward gays and lesbians since they have a harder time finding someone than a straight person does.

Theres only one asexual person I know in real life and she's really cool. Unlike my internet friends she's college educated, has a good job, owns a huge home in an expensive part of town, does volunteer work, and donates money to charities. She's always so kind and positive even though she doesn't have a partner. If they ever met her I think they'd learn so much from her.

But anyway, is it normal?

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  • kikilizzo
    1 year ago

    It's understandable to feel bad about seeing others being happy when it's much harder for you to find happiness than it is for them. Your real-life asexual friend is happy because she lives a fulfilling life. Asexual or not true happiness comes from inside and a partner can't fix anyones problem.
    If you're already a bitter and angry person then a partner can, if anything, only make your life harder. A relationship is full of compromise, demands and it takes stability and at least a little bit of confidence to make it work.
    You should encourage your friends to take up some hobbies and find something fulfilling to do with their time.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    1 year ago

    I’m asexual and go on asexual/aromatic forums sometimes and amongst the questions and memes there are normally a few rants. It is understandable why many of them feel frustrated and disappointed, society has taught them from childhood that they will find a long-term romantic partner one day and they’re coming to the realisation that the likelihood of this coming to fruition is slim to none.

    Having to recalculate your life plan without room for a future partner can be a daunting task. For me the realisation that I will have to pay for my first property on my own (unless I can find a friend willing to live with me indefinitely) is the scariest part.

    Hopefully once they have adjusted to this the bitterness will fade and they can live fulfilled lives, like your real life friend does.

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  • Tommythecaty
    1 year ago

    Yeah, being sexually frustrated due to fear of intimacy will do that.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    1 year ago

    I feel bad for them. Not because I think I'm over them but its almost like a disability. Its nice to have a partner and to have sex. Thats actually the greatest thing in life probably. I cant imagine not ever experiencing it.

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    • Ihidabody
      1 year ago

      What an ignorant twit.

      Not only having a partner and engaging in sexual intercourse NOT an essential, but it's not the greatest thing in life you people like to make it out to be. It's not all about partners and sex. Saying it's like a disability just proves you are incredibly dumb.

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      • 1WeirdGuy
        1 year ago

        You said once that you cant make friends. That is why you're so miserable. Having a spouse is like having a best friend. Then you get to have sex which is even better.

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        • Ihidabody
          1 year ago

          No, I said I don't desire friends. And very weird that you automatically assume my life is miserably simply because I don't care for friends, spouses, and sex. Sounds a bit like projection to me. Maybe that's why you people like to analyze others so much.

          And if I'm understanding you correctly, you only get with people for the sole purpose of having sex with them? Wow. I'd say that's worse than someone who just doesn't desire partners and sex.

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          • 1WeirdGuy
            1 year ago

            I said you're miserable because I'm assuming you're the same person in real life that you are on here. Everything you say is negative. Thats probably why you have trouble making friends. But its ok you fit in here most of us got issues. Im a weirdguy.

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            • Ihidabody
              1 year ago

              Ohhh, I get it. You're one of those complainers that act like negativity is an abomination, who will instantly call someone negative even when the person is just being realistic. Go figure. And to automatically assume my life is miserable because of the comments I write is strange. Like I said, sounds like projection.

              Yes, because it is just impossible for people not to have friends as their top priority. You are so right, weirdguy.

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