Is it normal my boyfriend can't stand me using my phone?
I just moved in with my boyfriend and use my phone a lot in my free time. I also use it before bed while he's still sleeping. This, according to him, is an issue. He's brought it up many many times and we have arguments about it. He sends me articles about how using my phone before bed is bad to my health but, as I'm sure you guessed, there are no serious health damages to this.
My side of the story is that I've always had insomnia and reading posts on social media before bed makes me exhausted enough to fall asleep. I usually spend about 30 mins-hour doing this per night. He says the light doesn't bother him, he sleeps like a baby. He just can't stand that I'm doing something detrimental to my health every night. He said that if he sees me doing something not good for me, like jumping off a bridge, he's not gonna sit around and let me do it.
If you're like me, this probably doesn't sound like a big deal at all. But we've gotten in bad arguments because of it. I'm afraid to ditch my phone before bed and be up for hours because my thoughts are racing. I feel like my phone puts me to sleep. It really hurts my feelings because I feel like he thinks I'm not wholesome enough for him (getting tea and a book before bed) and he's so obsessed with self-improvement and I just can't keep up with him.