Is it normal my boyfriend made me feel ugly? (sorry long post)

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So I have a little mole on my nose and my bf for yrs has been telling me to get rid of it. He started off saying it nicely but I don't want to it's my body. But yday for like the 10th time he said get rid of that little mole it makes yu look ugly, we aren't going to have sex until yu get rid of it and we will be friends.

So he would leave me over a little mole on my face? And like a idiot I let him use this product which removes moles takes some time tho and he wanted it to hurt me and cause he didn't see I was in much pain afterwards he was adamant to spray it again. I feel depressed and ugly and I love and care about him less and less when he makes me feel like this. I have explained for hrs so many times how he makes me feel and he replies sorry and hugs me and says he doesn't mean to make me feel like that... Well his response has been like that so many times. I feel ugly around him and end up fantasising about someone else.

Since he won't have sex with me due to a little mole well I am not having sex with him 😡. Apparently my love, generosity and me caring mean nothing to him.

What should I do?

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    3 years ago

    Regardless of what u do he seems like an asshole for how he handled the situation. If you really dont want to get rid of it then its your decision. Id probably get rid of it myself I dont know why anyone would wanna keep a mole on their face. But its ur life

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  • radar
    3 years ago

    Someone who loved or cared about you, or was even a decent person would not:

    -refuse sex over a mole
    -have a problem with the mole to begin with
    -want to hurt you (unless you're into that sort of thing)

    The whole "I didn't mean to, sorry" and hug routine is like when people beat their wives and then send them flowers. It's to placate you, to look better, and probably to keep you roped in. It's not because he's sorry. People who are sorry don't do it again.

    I also gotta say, dump.

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  • bbrown95
    3 years ago

    He sounds like a total asshole. If it's that big of a dealbreaker to him, you're better off without him, as he seems extremely shallow.

    Also, I have a mole beside my nose. It's definitely nothing to be ashamed of, and I actually like mine because my grandmother has one in the exact same place, and I think it's cool we share that in common!

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    You need to leave this guy! He's not that special. Whether, or not you remove this mole on your face is up to you, not him.

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  • miss_jass06
    3 years ago

    I really think you should break up with him. Why has he dated you for so long if it's such a big deal? He's disrespectful, shallow and doesn't appreciate you, your boyfriend should make you feel like the most amazing girl in the world and not like that... Dump him girl, you will find someone better who will care for you and who will love you along with your mole.

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  • a-curious-bunny
    3 years ago

    Dump him.

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