Is it normal my family to be so divided
I had a very good childhood, I was upper middle class and well taken care of. I’m now 19, male, living at home and attending community college. I haven’t been working for a few months and have relied on my parents for gas money. I start a new job in early January. My mom works full time, cooks just about every damn night, does her and my dads laundry, and all the other mom stuff I don’t actively notice. She seems stressed as hell and has pain issues with her hip/back.
Dad used to work in radio from the 70s until a few years ago when he got laid off for the 5th time or so. He does sales now. He usually does dishes after dinner, so there’s one my mom doesn’t do. After that, he usually isolates in his computer room. He should be retiring within a few years but from what I know they wouldn’t be able to afford that, mostly due to the large, nice house we live in.
My sister just turned 25. She lives at home, works fast food with no intention to get out of that, is not attending school anymore, and spends her money frivolously. iPad, MacBook, 2 70 inch 4k TVs, and in fall, flew to SLC and drove to Seattle to see the Jonas brothers live. She also saw them here at home. She has 0 responsibilities at home, despite living there for free. I am told to do the things she refuses to do because she “has a headache” or “doesn’t have time” to etc. my dad and I each take our dog, whose still really a puppy, for a walk. We always ask my sister to and he says “if I have time” and then sits in her fucking room for 5 hours before going to work. “Oops I was busy”. She gets mad and slams the door every time I try to bring up anything related to this. I’ve asked my mom to talk to her about that and those types of responsibility things in general. She says she can’t force her to to anything, she’s an adult. My sister does not pay rent, acts like a child, especially around my mother, refuses to openly talk to my dad without snapping, and ignores any slightly opposing viewpoints towards her lifestyle. A number of years ago, my parents told her that by 24 or 25 she’d have to pay rent. Hasn’t even come up in the last couple years.
Rant over