Is it normal my grandma upset me doing this?
I am a Christian Quaker and my grandmother is a Southern Baptist. I am the only Quaker in my family as I came to the faith on my own as an adult. One part of the Quaker faith many still practice is teetotalism. Many people in my family struggled with addiction including alcoholism. I do not allow that substance into my house. My fiance, who is agnostic, has enough respect for me to drink outside if he happens to want a beer every so often. He's not a big drinker anyway.
My grandmother has been an alcoholic my entire life. In the past half decade she has become born-again and became a Southern Baptist. We debated religion quite a bit. It's actually interesting, the non-Christians in my family seem a lot more open to my faith than the other Christians because my faith varies slightly from theirs (I actually offended them by saying Christ's teachings matter to me, His death was a horrific tragedy, but He did not have to resurrect to prove Himself to me. In short, his teachings were more important to me and proved He was God's son and messenger to me that way rather than His horrific torture and death. I got crap for that.)
My grandma actually shouted at me, "Do you believe in the Resurrection? Do you believe in the Resurrection?" Over and over again in an argument, then said I was "Not a Christian." I was incredibly upset.
But not as upset as I was when I learned she was sneaking alcohol into my house. My grandma ended up with a blood alcohol of .27 and started seizing because she has epilepsy and can't drink on her meds.
After she sobered up she didn't know I had the discharge papers. I asked her if she had brought alcohol into my home (she's living with me after destroying every other family tie with her alcoholism, I'm her youngest adult grandchild). She outright lied to me and tried to pull the sweet grandma, "I would never do that to you." Then how does ethanol get into your system?
I told her I knew and she disrespected my household and my faith when she brought liquor into my home and lied to my face. My fiance found the almost empty bottle of vodka regardless. When I mentioned my faith she rolled her eyes at me and and muttered something under her breath and it made me so angry I slammed my purse down in a loud bang.
How dare she try and tell me I am not a Christian because I do not believe the same way she does, then disrespect me and the Lord so much with that sort of behavior. I had to dress her, help her use the bathroom, and keep her in my bed that night where she kept kicking me in the back because she kept rolling out of her bed and hitting her head. I was literally using my body as a crib.
So an apparent "recovered" alcoholic brought liquor into my dry home, disrespected my faith with a superiority complex, and injured me. Then had the audacity to try and manipulate me and roll her eyes at me and talk crap when she realized I'm not as dumb as she thinks I am.
Is this normal behavior? I want her to get clean. But I can't have someone who behaves like that having a superiority complex over me and disrespecting my home.