Is it normal my husband doesnt want me to be friends with a transgender person?

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My husband got upset when he found out Im friends with a female to male person( who identifies as a gay male). He says they are unstable and possibly dangerous. We are friends because we both had eating disorders and anxiety and love animals.
He doesnt like me texting them(which i do only once in a while) and says we should only meet in a group setting.
He thinks they are probably "in love" with me which is silly.
For perspective Ive never cheated in our relationship.
Thoughts??

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  • Mammal-lover
    4 years ago

    This is actually normal. Fucked but normal. Alot of people hate us. One person says on a comment online they block the door to the bathrooms so no trans people can get in when his wife or kids are in there. People are stupid.

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    That's stupid and very controlling.
    Your husband can't decide whom you befriend, you are your own person not his property.
    And it's dumb how people think that any gay person will fall in love with someone of the same gender as them. Does straight people fall in love with every single opposite gender person they meet? No.
    I wouldn't listen to him if I were you, i'd just tell him to mind his own business and that he has no right to say such things about someone he doesn't even know.

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  • SunSnow
    4 years ago

    Give him time... He has misunderstanding. He is feeling insecure. Don't make this big issue.
    Show him they are just friends.
    Solve this matter softly.

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  • fancypigeon
    4 years ago

    I presume you are female? He does realize that since this person states they are a gay male, that they like other men, and therefore, (presumably) not you? Furthermore, trans people aren't more dangerous than cis (not-trans) people. You seem like you know this, though. He seems like a dick, really does, at least in this case. I suppose it will all be fine if he eventually does understand that it is not up to him to dictate who you hang out with. Do you think that he will settle down once he realizes that this particular individual is not dangerous?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Yes female.
      In the past few days he now says it " isnt a big issue"so maybe he has realized that this person is not in love with ne. I think he is kinda homo/transphobic but now he says its ok if i talk with them and that hes not scared i might cheat.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    4 years ago

    He recently said maybe he overreacted. So I think thats going in the right direction.

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  • Clunk42
    4 years ago

    While I personally feel people of that sort are generally imbecilic, I don't think it's fine to dictate who your partner can and can not be friends with.

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Yeah normal. Your husband shouldn't be in control of who your friends with, but that said, I agree with your husband that transgenders are best avoided. You can treat them however you want and I would never tell my S/O to avoid transgenders if possible, I however, have always, and will continue to avoid transgenders.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Do you think they are dangerous? Or just delusional?

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Depends where you live in terms of the actual legal risk, but they are definitely delusional like, by definition.

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    • Chillypenguin178
      4 years ago

      Why the fuck do you want to avoid trans people?

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Because their weird and delusional. Also I am 99.9999 percent sure they will be super offended by how I treat them, and I like to avoid conflict whenever possible to keep a more positive vibe in my life. Any questions?

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        • Chillypenguin178
          4 years ago

          Well you're right about one thing. I am very fucking offended by how you're treating us.

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          • d0esnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            Yeah well I have this thing called self awareness. It's what transgender people need to use. You need to be aware that your a male if you have a cock. Man I feel stupid typing something that obvious.

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            • blinkeredharlot
              4 years ago

              That's not what self awareness is. Guess you wouldnt know as you have none.

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        • blinkeredharlot
          4 years ago

          Lmfao what a lie

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  • SmokeEverything
    4 years ago

    You should probably get a divorce and start having sex with your other friend, that'll show him!

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