Is it normal my mom think this former friend of mine is sweet and innocent
Last year I lost the worst friend ever. Im pretty sure hes a druggie because his pupils are tiny and he drinks all the time and eats too much yet always crying about being fat.
He wants everyone to do everything for him such as having his friends write his CV and treats them like they're supposed to take care of him like a child. He's even cried about how they don't want to live with him so he doesn't have to be alone for a single minute...
We met on tinder and I was not interested.
Then he started going on about depression so i'd feel sorry for him and we became friends, only problem was he didnt respect my boundry. He was the typical cringy neckbeard type who would greet me with a massive tight hug while going "mmm" as well as while we were out walking grab me randomly. He once shared how he loves to touch up on mens groins in public settings because they would be too embarrassed to tell him to stop... He's also incredibly needy... Even though he has tons of friends he'd lock himself inside, cry, get drunk and talk about how no one is lonlier than him if someone had to cancel plans with him.
In the end the biggest thing for me personally was when friends of his who were acquitances of mine started trying to include me which upset my friend when I told him. He was jealous clearly and started avoiding me but blamed depression, however he was hanging out with other friends. When I found out he'd held a birthday party but not invited me I deactivated my facebook because everything was triggering me back to my bullying. No one has managed to emotionally stab me so deep since my childhood bullies.
When he noticed this he sent a rant about how hes sorry hes avoiding me but hes depressed + im not edgy enough for him and he likes to talk about sex all the time and be edgy...
I had supported him and listened to him.. So I told him to fuck off and that its shitty to use depression as a reason to avoid someone. I have depression and yet I multiple times told him to come for a walk with me to help him. I never went outside otherwise. Did he ever do anything to help me though? Never.
Looking at his main friends its hilarious to think they're an ~edgy~ gang. Theres him, an overweight trans "man", an e-girl who posts heavily filtered thirsttraps on instagram,
and a guy who looks like all he's done is drink heavily and he goes on rants about friendship that sound cult-like.
They perform rituals, watch anime and drink. Edgelord things.
It bugs me how my mom says hes such a sweetheart and when it came to him forcing tight hugs on me against my will my mom defends it and says some people want a lot of intimacy and it is mean and selfish to deny them it. She also defended him when I told her about him groping mens junks and said he's just socially awkward...