Is it normal my sister doesn't want a job?

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My sister is 17, going to be 18 this year and she still doesn't have a job. She lives with me and my dad and relies entirely on both of us because she gets no money. She often bullies me into buying her things like if I want to buy some food for myself she will say I will have to buy her food for her as well, and my dad usually makes me pay for food and stuff for my sister.

She does not want to get a job, she's the female equivalent of a neckbeard, all she does all day is sit in her room watching anime. She hasn't even made a resume yet, and whenever someone asks her if she has finished it she just says she'll do it later which is a lie. I'm tired of her using my money but right now I don't have the funds to move out of house yet. When I do move I don't know what my dad is going to do with her, but I hope he kicks her out.

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  • LloydAsher
    5 years ago

    That woman is a bitch and be sure she understands that shit.

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  • Maniac_Squid
    5 years ago

    Normally at 18 it would be fine, but definetely not if she spends your money, and isn't going anywhere at all.

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    5 years ago

    Well if she's not 18 yet she shouldn't have to. Once she's 18, providing she's still not at school or college, then she should. Otherwise though I say let her enjoy the last of her childhood. She shouldn't be pressuring you into buying her things though, I don't agree with that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      She hasn't graduated high school, she left without finishing and has never set out to get further education or study.

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  • sissycakes
    5 years ago

    your sister should be able to laze around. she should be able to rest. you should be able to keep your money. not everyone has a life plan or even a will to work at a convenient store at 17 or 16. she probably realizes this is her life what she does needs to count and that it needs to be something she will enjoy. if she starts in on something that she doesn't like it could likely take her a long time to stop doing whatever it is. just maybe give her some time to figure things out and treat her nice. it almost sounds like she may be unhappy. also, i am not saying you should buy for your sister everyday, but buying her a cheeseburger and a coke does not seem like too much to ask.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      She's been resting for the last 3 years since she left high school and refused to finish it and go to school. She's had 3 years to figure something out and think about what she wants do. She is still sitting around doing nothing after these 3 years and not earning any money for herself or pulling her weight in, forcing my father who does not have a job and gets a very limited amount of money from the government to pull her extra weight in as he loses more and more money as she sits on her ass doing nothing as the money from my fathers savings gets lower and lower until he will not be able to rent his own house anymore and will be kicked out on the streets.

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      • sissycakes
        5 years ago

        i did not know it was that bad. 3 years after highschool. while i want everyone to be happy i wonder why your sister does not feel guilty that she is not doing anything like i did before i had a job. i felt i just was not doing enough. are you sure she is happy? for lack of a better word and feels okay?

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    5 years ago

    I was thrown out of my parents house at 17. So to me its not normal. I always had a job and money since I was 15. I wasnt allowed to not work.

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  • CDmale4fem
    5 years ago

    I read an article in the Sunday paper about 10 years ago. There was a picture of a woman of African American heritage. She was on every program just about that she could get in. Housing, etc. They told her she had to go out and get a job to help pay for utilities etc. She worked a total of about a year in her whole 30 some years. She said "I just don't see how people do that everyday. Then she was put into an apartment and she had the nerve and the nerve to complain that she didn't like the wood dloors,the flat screen tv was not big enough. I really believe that woman would have complained if she had been shot with a dirty bullet. Some people just feel like the entire world revolves around them. True your sister is nit18 yet, but it's not to early to get out and start get to t ideas.

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  • curious-bunny
    5 years ago

    She s underage she isn't required to have one, should have one but isn't required. And with no job history there is no resume to biolx what are you gonna say here's my blank job history? Besides most first jobs don't care about that stuff. Wuch she's clearly not joining a family buisness. And you dad litterally can't make you buy her shit. Tell him to fuck off it's your money and future. That's what I would say. She doesn't work she doesn't get extra fun stuff. When I turned 16 I got a job, wanted to be able to start transitioning cause my mom couldn't afford that wothout a doubt so i started working. Instead the day my first check arrived my mom handed me my phone bill my rent and told me my food was on me now. As you can imagine I never got to start transitioning. It was a little annoying but I understood. My mom is dirt poor and not having to cover that helped her out tremendously. Whwt did piss me off is my brother moved back in had a well paying job and didn't pay a lick of rent and basically destroyed the place. And he's 4 years older than me. Now that that pissed me off.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      you need a resume to apply for a job. she's almost 18, and still no resume and no interest in making one. if she was a few years younger like around 14 - 16 i wouldn't worry, right now i'm worried because she's going to be an adult in a few months with no resume, no school graduation, and no job history and no interest in getting on with her life when she does turn into an adult.

      i'm worried because if she still continues to sit around doing nothing my dad will eventually kick her out as he isn't going to support her forever, and she will have nowhere to go/no job to rely on for living, as she will be getting no money because she's never had a job in her life.

      my dad and me have tried encouraging her to maybe look for jobs so she can eventually find her own place and move on, but she always makes excuses or just refuses to even browse around for a potential job she might be interested in doing. she's almost 18 in a few months and is not interested in moving into adulthood or becoming independent, all she wants to do is leech onto other people.

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      • curious-bunny
        5 years ago

        Most first jobs don't require a resume. Hell my first 2 didn't and one was a factory. Kick her ass out the day she turns 18, she will figure it out

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    I never heard the term "neckbeard" before but yeah, it sounds like a befitting terms for some people.

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  • Tealights
    5 years ago

    If moving out isn't an option, then change strategy. Basically, become more useful in your household to the point you shouldn't have to do anything extra.

    For example, if you have the 1st shift at your job, then you can promise your father that you'll do the grocery shopping after work, cook dinner and cleaning of the kitchen after you're done cooking. This will permanently take care of the food problem, but since you're doing a service, it's only fair that the rest of your money should be yours to save or do with what you please.

    If you do go with the cooking idea, and your father still makes you pay for things for your sister that aren't important, simply stop cooking and claim that you can't buy grocery because you don't have enough money.

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  • litelander8
    5 years ago

    its amazing the way society treats kids. She should have a job as soon as she's legal to. Unless she does activities after school that will help her get scholarships.

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    • Tealights
      5 years ago

      The OP already explained that the sister who is about to turn 18 dropped out of highschool, isnt working toward a GED or a job and just watch anime all day in her room.

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      • litelander8
        5 years ago

        Which is why she should have a job....

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