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They always bicker to me about one another. They never agree with anything the other person does. It's like my mom is super sensitive and my wife is naturally a bitch and she knows it. I get sick of hearing both their shit but I dont go back and forth so they both think the other likes them.
Be a man and talk to them!
I would say something like "You both got your differences, I don't appreciate being a messenger. How about both of you grow up and stop gossiping against each other!"
It's a difficult situation to deal with, but unfortunately pretty common.
How you deal with it depends on your relationship with the two women and how much you value your marriage.
If your mother will always be the most important woman in your life, then you need to tell your wife this and ask her to stop dissing your mommy. If your wife has any sense, she'll soon head out the door and you can return to your natural state of being a devoted Mommy's Boy.
If you're mature enough to recognise that you chose to marry your wife and make a new life with her and you care about her and your marriage, then you need to tell your mother that you're fed up with her bad-mouthing your wife, and you'd be grateful if she kept her opinions to herself in future.
As for your wife's bitching about your mother, maybe you should think about why she feels the need to do that. Are they really so different in every aspect of their personalities and their view of the world that there's zero common ground? If your wife felt threatened by your relationship with your mother and has a feeling that you haven't truly detached from her and committed to your marriage, she might have the urge to constantly point out your mother's failings.
I just try to keep them from fighting. My mom usually has a problem with a lot of stuff people do and she's a control freak. My wife is a person that does not get along with those types of people. My mom texts my wife every other day to see how the child is doing and it drives my wife nuts. If i tell my mom she's driving my wife nuts she will get all sad and throw a pity party.
I tell my wife that its still my mom. My mother drives me crazy too but i have to get over it and she should too. People are gonna get on your nerves that's just life. We have to learn to deal with people. I have coworkers that I hate but I still deal with them because i have ti.
If I were your wife I'd block your mother's phone number and give her a weekly report on the child and if I were you I'd stay right out of it and refuse to listen to either of them crapping on about the other. They're both adults, let them handle their own problems with each other.
Yeah, I'll bet it's VERY annoying! It would be good if you could learn to detach from it because it's really not your problem unless you allow it to be: stop listening, walk out of the room, politely tell them you don't want to hear their gripes about the other person and stick to it, suggest if they can't resolve their differences like two adults they should go to counselling.