Is it normal people preferring biological over adopted kids makes me angry?

Of course, yes, and I know you can't really compare it but my family has more often than not gone for "rescue" pets that other people didn't seem to want. I know that might be an insulting analogy but I don't mean it to be. I particularly wonder why couples who have trouble conceiving spend their life savings on IVF when they could adopt and spend the money on giving the child a good life.

However, you can also understand the need for someone to pass on their family line. To me, it doesn't really matter much. I'm more pragmatic about it. But it really matters to some.

I'm a Biology student. It is 100% normal for people to prefer biological kids to adopted kids. It is nature.

My husband is adopted and wants nothing more than to understand what blood family means. I have my opinions but I will never understand his perspective. We will likely adopt or foster as well as birth our own offspring. It's hard, we don't have to prove anything to anyone to create a child ourself. And childbirth itself it a very interesting experience.

The foster system is sad, but you can't force people to take in children. Do what you can to support and encourage others to do the same. Just don't attack them and belittle them because they want their own. Most people won't willingly take on a child with such risks.

I would only have a child if it was biological.

I'm for adopting, my boyfriend isn't really. I think he's coming around though. I'd much rather adopt one day, considering I don't like this world myself.

If a woman wants to experience pregnancy, if a couple wants to find out what sort of new life they can create and nurture together, if they want to have some idea what to expect from the child in the way of inherited traits and characteristics, and even health issues, if they are able and eager to embark on the journey of parenthood, they are bad people if they don't first think "adoption"? Why on earth should they be (what they would view as) punished for what basically boils down to somebody else's decisions? Are you really suggesting that couples interested in having a child be compelled to adopt? Don't you find that to be incredibly fascist? And don't you find the sentiment you're professing to be incredibly self-righteous? If your first impulse isn't to adopt, you are clearly an immoral, uncaring P.O.S.? You might not have explicitly stated that, but your question screams it pretty loudly. And it's sort of a self-gratifying sentiment too, don't you think? You're the smartest and can best tell the poor throngs of deluded fools what is best? It's not exactly like you're unbiased in the debate. Don't get me wrong, I think it's a beautiful sentiment to want to see every child adopted and being lovingly raised by a nurturing family, and I can definitely see how it is an issue that is very close to your heart, but if I understand you correctly, you are suggesting that if a woman finds herself pregnant when she wasn't planning on becoming a mother, she must be compelled to abort the child so that she can either not have to deal with the burdens of a child, or if she decides she wants a child after all, she has to adopt ("I'm also more angry that people keep surprise pregnancies")? "PARENTHOOD isn't about what YOU WANT. It's about what your child NEEDS." I think you need to pay more attention to that sentiment. Are you suggesting that this can include abortion if somebody else's child is in need? And with adoption, the child only becomes yours once you take the steps to adopt it. I don't consider anybody else's offspring my own, and they sure as heck better not consider mine theirs. Is this moral imperative just directed to single mothers, or does it include couples that find themselves with one extra child than they anticipated? What of a couple that was planning for just one more, but finds themselves pregnant with twins or triplets? Do we cull the surplus and supplement them with adoptive children if they still want 3 children? You're really proposing intruding a little too intimately on others' lives. I think it is wonderful that parents elect to adopt, and I agree with you that it is both shameful and despicable that so often, people do not give adopted children the same legitimacy as biological children (I envy the willpower of adoptive parents who hear questions like, "Are you going to try to have any real children" and don't knock the person asking's lights out). But I think that what you are saying is just as offensive to parents who decide to have biological children as minimizing the legitimacy of adoption is offensive to you.

I think that YOU have a big problem. Why get angry? Your father works in a foster care system and following your logic he should be the one to be hated the most because even if he saw all how these little children suffer he has chosen to have YOU!

Regardless of their economic situation each couple has the right to decide to have children. A single woman has the right to get pregnant if she wants to. I see children not being taken good care of everyday, should this push me to adopt? No way , I want to have my own children - my flesh and blood. Am I selfish? Am I a bad person for thinking so? No I don't think so. I am only human.