Is it normal people treat their partner like a parent

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Men want a mommy to cook for them and clean and baby them.
Women want a daddy to buy them things and protect them and be really tall so it feels like walking with your dad as a little girl.
What about being equal human beings? I dont want a dad because I already have one even though hes not the best. Think about this way, parents take care of you but they also have control over you throughout the years they take care of you the most. If I allow a man to act like a dad for me by giving me things and providing for me then he is like my dad in controlling as well. I like for my partner to just be my best friend. Your best friend is equal with you and you dont control each other and you just have fun and do things together but you will also share a life which is awesome. But you take care of yourself

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Based on 11 votes (9 yes)
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  • KholatKhult
    1 year ago

    Sigmund Freud would’ve loved IIN

    My father made it very clear to me when I was younger, being wanted and being needed are two very different things, and someone who needs you but doesn’t want you - isn’t a romantic partner

    Dependency can be healthy when it’s based in cooperation. Obviously as a partnered couple living together there are domestic duties needed for the home. If I’m spending my share of time taking care of Necessity A, I must depend on my partner to take care of Necessity B, otherwise it simply wouldn’t get done. And if it’s something that benefits the life of you and the team, why wouldn’t you want to do what you can ?

    Financial dependency, which you see in relationships where one person brings an income and the other doesn’t, /can/ be healthy and successful, but are more vulnerable to imbalances. “Those who feed you, control you”

    Also, in a very egotistical way, being able to peacock around on the fact that “they could have anyone, do anything, be anywhere, yet they choose to be here with me” feels damn good

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    • Menacingduck
      1 year ago

      They only chose you because they had something to gain. You know that, right?

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      • KholatKhult
        1 year ago

        Yeah gain access to this absolute whopping hog

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        • Menacingduck
          1 year ago

          No.

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          • ospry
            1 year ago

            Ah, the butthole

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            • Menacingduck
              1 year ago

              Don't think so.

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  • Grunewald
    1 year ago

    That's a really interesting reflection. I would distance myself from the prescriptivism at the end, but the rest rings true, doesn't it?

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  • Ummitsstillme
    1 year ago

    You're crazy as hell with your two parent well fed private school kinks.

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  • Unknown_player
    1 year ago

    I think its generational trauma tbh

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  • splashgame3
    1 year ago

    I get where you’re coming from. I’ve had two different a relationships where in one the girl acted like a mother in a sense and in the other we were more so best friends/equals and took care of our own needs. The latter was a lot more enjoyable. I guess every relationship has different dynamics though.

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