Is it normal schools bully introverted children

When I was in school I was lonely. I got teased by the girls in my class for not having all the latest stuff and for being quiet but at first I didnt care because I enjoyed being alone.
Then teachers started to tear me down over it. They were the real bullies, actually. At teacher parent talks they would always ask me "do you have any friends? where do they live?" and other invasive questions. I did not have friends but it didnt bother me, however it made me feel really weird and guilty that I didnt because the teachers kept asking like something was seriously wrong with me.

Then when we got old enough to go eat lunch alone without our teacher I would walk to the lunch by myself. Mom told me to stop walking alone because I look like a victim. Grandma would keep an eye on me through her window everyday to make sure I didnt look pathetic and lonely.

As a result I started to ask different friend groupings of girls in my class if I was allowed to walk with them. Often they would say "fine" and let me. Eventually they started saying no. It made me panic since I would obviously shame my family if I walked alone so i'd walk with them. That ramped things up, they'd some days start running or they'd yell at me to leave them alone or they'd steal my jacket or mittens and throw in the ditch to stall me. The teachers would tell me to start being like everyone else and to toughen up. One time a teacher I had grabbed me by the arm when I was standing at my locker and pulled me away from it then she said "youre coming with me to the school counsellor, you need help" and her reasoning was I was a quiet person who "looked depressed". I refused and eventually she let me go.

Luckily everyone else at school was nice to me and didnt seem to find me weird but I was too ashamed to request to switch to a different class, plus the girls in mine had this weird idea that I didnt talk because I considered myself 'above them' hence if I had switched to a different class they wouldve gotten meaner because they'd have it confirmed, in their minds, that I felt I was too good for them. They were insecure. They were frenemies who tore each other down. They tried to "encruit" me sometimes by inviting me over after school, give me a makeover and try to have me act like them but it didnt work. Peer pressure has never had an effect on me.

In the end I consider the teachers to be the biggest bullies. Had they left me be who I am I would never have gotten insecure about myself and depressed. I know now I am normal because I know many introverts like me who had the same experience in school. Why is it okay to bully introverted children? I know it still happens.

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  • Tommythecaty

    I will say, that while not ideal, that barely constitutes bullying. Shit, that story barely consists of…anything.

    What are you even complaining about, teachers not kissing your heinie.

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  • bbrown95

    I had some similar experiences, and yes, there are some horrible teachers (and other people who work with kids) out there who seem to thrive on ostracizing and humiliating children. My theory is that these types of people are not accepted in adult society and/or have control freak personalities (typically both), and go back to school to bully kids because they're easier targets than adults and are the only people that will ever take them somewhat seriously or are so easily controllable. These people tend to be extremely emotionally immature as well.

    Unfortunately, kids often see the adult authority figures as being all-knowing and always right, so they never question the way they are treated and this is hugely appealing to these predators (that is what I consider them, since they prey on children's naivety in order to feel like big shots). It is so easy for the bullshit these people do to damage children's confidence and self esteem for years, and I find it absolutely infuriating that more isn't done to eliminate these pathetic low life zeros from school districts or really any career involving children.

    Now that we're adults and we know what kind of people these are and that they were astronomically wrong about us, it's best to throw away all of the toxic garbage they filled our heads with, though that's definitely much easier said than done. They are nobodies who were never able to make their way in the world and tried to make everyone else around them as miserable as they are because of it. Typical losers who wollow in self pity and point the blame for their lack of personal success at everyone else. Don't allow them the power to influence how you feel about yourself!

    It absolutely is not okay, and we as a society should refuse to tolerate such BS in our schools. It made me sick that the handful of psycho teachers I had taught in the same schools for decades, and when one was finally forced to resign after multiple complaints from parents, the school rephrased it as a "retirement" and put her picture and a note thanking her for her "dedication to her students" for 28 years. 🤮 She didn't deserve recognition for squat and sure as shit was not "dedicated to her students"!

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  • GaelicPotato

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  • bigbudchonger

    This is a sad thing to go through. Are you a guy or a giril btw, and did you eventually get some degree of comradeship with non-family members?

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