Is it normal someone told me she's probably pretending?

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This is how my conversation went with a girl I'm interested in meeting:

Me- I'd still like to meet u for a coffee sometime, like just as mates? Haha
Her- yeah I'd like that but just as mates also :)
Me- Yeah for sure, ditto
Her- Awesome, actually I met someone, sorry for being so scarce.
I'd like to have coffee/hot choc though :)
Me- Yeah I recall you saying something along those lines. Ahh yeah as u know im the chocoholic haha na but I'd deff be keen :)
Her- Hahaha sounds great.

My problem is, is that a week later I asked her what she's up to (Being a Sunday). She told me nothing at all just chilling. Well I'm kinda bummed out she hasn't set a day to hang since? I told someone else all the above & they said they think she's pretending & isn't interested & feels awkward to say otherwise!

What do u guys think??

Note- She replied straight away when I asked her out again but when I asked her what's she up to , vice versa, she didn't ask anything further about my day. She doesn't seem interested in getting me to elaborate??

Sounds like she was B.S & doesn't want to meet 4
You need to set another day! 2
I think she was genuine otherwise she would have said no 2
Give her time 1
Other- I'll comment 2
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  • Reeve
    7 years ago

    Look, it could be many things. Either she's just trying to say no without sounding like a bitch, or she has a lot of things going on in her mind that aren't positive, and if that, I wouldn't say she like likes you, at the very least, but unfortunately it sounds like she does not want to talk to you. just give her some space, reciprocate how she treats you meaning if all you do to each other is say hi then just say hi, nothing more, nothing less, just do to her what she does to you EXACTLY. If you give less you will seem you don't want to talk to her, and if more you will seem desperate and clingy which is actually worse than the first. If she actually likes you even as a friend, she will talk eventually and if she never does don't feel bad everyone has gone through this problem.

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  • wigz
    7 years ago

    If she was interested, she'd be trying to get together. She's not, so there's your answer. She's probably typical of many young women...non-confrontational, unassertive and has trouble saying 'no'. Probably regrets giving out her #. Just leave her alone.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      She never gave out her number. She added me on Facebook, she offered to go out sometime! She could have easily deleted me if she doesn't want to meet?

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      • wigz
        7 years ago

        Oh. Well considering she's not making any effort to get to know you and not making any plans to meet, I'd take it as a pretty sure sign that she's not interested. She's probably just being nice, attempting to spare your feelings and avoiding confrontation. Just move on.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          Well I'm definitely not going to move on without saying anything. I'll set a day/ask properly one more time & if she gives me a b.s excuse ill say why did u add me if u weren't even interested in talking or at least meeting once. Its unfair to pretend to want to meet! You should have just told me the truth to begin with.

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          • wigz
            7 years ago

            No, no, no. Don't scold her. Even if you're right in saying she should've been upfront, don't do this. That's creeper shit. It's also a bad mentality to foster, you're not entitled to her attention or company and you need to recognize that. Just drop it.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              7 years ago

              Its not a matter of whether or not I'm "entitled" to her attention. You could say that/use that in any situation to avoid speaking the truth. Nothing creepy about it. I'm not stalking her. I'm making my point & moving on. Majority of people are too chicken to reflect to someone. This is why shit like this continues to happen and if people were more honest, it wouldn't come to this.

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  • Idiots
    7 years ago

    You need to just leave it alone. She's not interested. Women don't really flat out say "no thanks, get lost" they tend to do this nonsense for some reason. You should not contact her anymore and to make sure you aren't tempted to do so just delete her number.

    She won't be contacting you.

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  • peterrabbyt4
    7 years ago

    She gives good head and is worth the wait.

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  • lillygirl
    7 years ago

    Don't think too much... Move on.. she will contact you if she is interested..

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