Is it normal someone who is a closet gay as well tried to force me to come out?

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I'm a closet lesbian. A classmate of mine who has always been very mean to me has tried to force me to come out of the closet because he believes that, by staying closeted, I am implying that there is something wrong with being gay.
However, he is a closet homosexual as well and he makes offensive gay jokes and verbally bashes gay people.
Is this normal?

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Captain_Kegstand

11 years ago

Don't ever let anybody talk you into doing anything that you don't want to! Bitch slap him!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Hahhahhaa ;p I wish I could
  
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  - Captain_Kegstand
    
    11 years ago
    
    That is always an option, just not the best one most of the time!
    
    Just for my curiosity, is there a reason that you are in the closet? Or are you just not ready to make that jump yet?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      :p I suppose it is.
      
      I'm not sure why I'm still in the closet. I've never been able to get along with most people at my school, so I don't exactly feel comfortable with disclosing that kind of personal information about my life.
      
      Maybe when I leave school, I'll tell everyone. (: It would probably make me feel good about myself.
      
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      - Captain_Kegstand
        
        11 years ago
        
        I think you would be happier if you told everybody, although I recognize that it might be more comfortable for you to wait until you are out of school to do that. People in school can be extremely harsh and judgmental!
        
        Just go with your gut, coming out sounds like it would be hard to me, but I think you will probably know when it is the right time!
        
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        11 years ago
        
        I believe you're right. Luckily I'll get to leave school in a few months, so I won't have to worry about that anymore!
        
        I think it's wise for people to come out as soon as they're safe (emotionally as well as physically) Do you know many gay people? Maybe they've told you this
        
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Avant-Garde

11 years ago

What a bitch. He's probably scared and of his sexuality and wants you to test out the social waters with coming out. Ignore his insecurities. No one should force you on when to open the door. You should open it only when you feel comfortable and ready enough.

Good Luck:)

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thanks for your response! That could also be the reason behind his behaviour, seeing as there are no openly gay/bisexual students at my school. Either way, he doesn't seem to be planning on coming out any time soon.
  
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  - Avant-Garde
    
    11 years ago
    
    You're welcome:)
    
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smartpatrol11

11 years ago

You should expose his gayness to the whole school for being a gypocrit and being nasty to you

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thanks, but I'm afraid he'll expose me to get back at me and I'm not ready to come out either :/
  But thanks for responding anyway (:
  
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Orphan

1 year ago

People say u should come out when you're ready and feel safe to do so. Some people wait untill they're fiancially able to leave home before coming out.

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_Mehhh_

7 years ago

I think he's just trying to use you, push you out the closet so he can see how people react to you, so if it goes well he can come out himself.

He's a pussy and needs to grow a pair.

And anyone (men in particular) who seems too interested in the topic of homosexuality is a gay person trying to deflect, I don't give a fuck. You think a straight person who is just minding their own business doesn't have better shit to think about?

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golden_showers

9 years ago

how has he confirmed that you're gay? Start making fun of him giving blow jobs. if he can dish it out, he's entitled to take it.

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kittylitter101

11 years ago

He's just uncomfortable with himself.
Tell him that you are fine being homosexual, and you just need to come out when you are ready.
Good luck!

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Shaggyjunior

11 years ago

I think this guy is ashamed of who he is, and wants you to be thought of as the gay kid in class, not him.

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drumandpickchick

11 years ago

Sounds like my bro-sis in law. Someone who is begging for support, yet pushing everyone away with his nasty attitude and radical behavior. After my mother in law died, my husband's 40 year old brother fell of his rocker. He decided he wanted to be a woman. He has been saying manipulative things to him and his siblings. And creeping everyone out. He has a handicapped sister that lives with him and he mentally screws with her over an over saying she should have been the boy and "I should have been a girl." He's asked my husband several times when he's coming out of the closet. We even just found out he had stolen my underwear when we were living there waiting to close on our house. We won't go around him anymore because he's rude and he's been accused of messing around with neighbor kids. He's an asshole.

It's interesting when the bully wants support.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Wait, he's asked your husband when he's coming out of the closet? Does he think your husband is gay?
  
  thanks for your response by the way.
  
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  - drumandpickchick
    
    11 years ago
    
    He asked 3 times one day. I don't think he thinks he's gay, he's just a huge asshole and bully. He's very insecure. I think he has a histrionic personality issue for sure!
    
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DontGiveUp

11 years ago

Umm.... He is performing hypocrisy. if your a closeted gay you dont try to force someone out. he's a dumbass.

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

How do you know he's a closet homosexual?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  His ex-girlfriend told me that he's had relationships with men before (maybe I should have said 'closet bisexual') so seeing as there are people who do know he's queer, he's not completely closeted. But he expects me to tell literally everyone I know, without applying the same standard to himself.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    11 years ago
    
    Well, I don't think taking his ex's word for it is a good thing to do.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      I told my best friend that his ex-girlfriend told me and she said I was right because she'd heard the same thing from someone else. Also, I told him that I knew he was queer too and he told me that he was bisexual, not homosexual. So he confirmed it.
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        11 years ago
        
        Yes, and maybe that someone else was told by his ex. You can't take someone else's word on whether or not someone has a certain sexual orientation.
        
        If he confirmed it, then why didn't you say he was bisexual instead of mentioning he was homosexual?
        
        He admitted to being bisexual, he told you. He also would of told his ex if she knew he was bisexual, and he must of told the person that told your friend he was bisexual, so he isn't exactly being hypocritical if he is infact telling people he is bisexual/coming out.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        11 years ago
        
        Generally, when several people state that someone they know personally is openly queer, they mean it.
        
        To be fair, I said he was homosexual because I think he's not actually bi.
        
        Actually, he is: he expects me to tell literally everyone, while he is still lying to some people about his own orientation (I once caught him saying that he isn't gay or bi)
        
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justinetld

11 years ago

It's normal but not how it should be. He obviously has more issues with himself than anything else though.

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  11 years ago
  
  I agree, I think he has issues with himself too
  
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