Is it normal that i’m pretty sure my dad likes my feet?

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This thought comes from him tickling and holding my feet for extended periods of time, always threatening to tickle them, sometimes holding them so I can’t leave the room and the one time he used a vacuum to “suck them.”

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  • CountessDouche
    3 years ago | pl

    Am I...like the only one who thinks you're the weird one for reading into this???

    Maybe I'm wrong. I don't wanna...like...invaladate you getting molested, but a dad grabbing kid feet & joking around & pretending to suck them up with a vacuum seems like normal dad goofing to me???

    Did he have a weird look in the eye or a sexual overtone or something???

    I just don't see this as weird. Please correct me if I'm wrong, weird iin people

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    • Inkmaster
      3 years ago

      I answered before reading the details. Bad move on my part.

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    • A_standard_name
      3 years ago

      Well that’s why i came here. I was just wondering if I was panicking over nothing or not.

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    • Tommythecaty
      3 years ago

      This

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  • Kermitt
    3 years ago

    Have you noticed any movement in his trousers when he plays with your feet?

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    • A_standard_name
      3 years ago

      Well I’m too busy trying to stay away from him or trying not to lose my breath (as I’m very ticklish) to notice

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    • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
      3 years ago

      Lol

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    3 years ago

    Do you get creep vibes when he does it

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    • A_standard_name
      3 years ago

      Just a general “stay back” or “this is awkward” kind of thing

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  • Boojum
    3 years ago

    Questions like this are always difficult to respond to sensibly when there's no indication of the age of the child and no hint of how one particular issue fits in with the parent-child relationship as a whole.

    I'm the father of a daughter. I used to pester her by tickling her feet when she was very young, but she's a tween now, and there's no way I'd make a point of doing that at every opportunity now.

    Tickling is a weird thing in general. It's playful, and yet it's also aggressive, since you're doing something to another person that forces them to react because of a physiological response to a certain type of stimulation. I used to tickle my daughter a lot when she was small, but one day when she was eight, she looked me in the eye and told me that it really annoyed her, so I stopped.

    It's possible that what your father does is completely innocent. It's not unusual for parents to have problems accepting that their child is growing up and not a little kid anymore, so they can have problems seeing that some things that were once appropriate aren't any longer.

    Being the father of a daughter in these days of hyper-awareness of sexual issues in the family can be difficult, and that same hyper-vigilance can also make kids question their parents' behaviour and see sexual undertones where there are none. Sometimes when my daughter hugs me, I hold her really tight and play at not letting her go, but there's nothing at all sexual about that; it's just a way of telling her in a physical way that I like being with her. That's the sort of relationship we have, but I can see how it would be inappropriate in other father-daughter relationships and unappreciated by other daughters.

    Something I don't understand is how, if this really bothers you, your father ever has the opportunity to grab your feet and hold them. Surely, it wouldn't be all that difficult for you to make a point of keeping them out of his reach if you don't want him to mess with them.

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    • A_standard_name
      3 years ago

      Thanks for the long post!
      Well first, if he’s 63 (though often claims to be 21 lol) and my mum is around 40 (I don’t know her exact age). I’m not going to put my age out here for personal reasons but yeah.
      I don’t really know if I specifically told him to stop but i have tried my best here and there (not the biggest fan of telling people off).
      Also that’s the reason i came to this site, seeing if I was making a mess out of nothing.
      To address you’re final point, I don’t normally wear socks/shoes in the house so whenever i sit down in most ways, the feet are very much exposed. Though he often tries to block the exit so I can’t leave the room.
      Anyway, here’s everything else i found suspicious of him if that helps you:
      1.He watches porn (found from his history)
      2.Like mentioned, he often mentions he’s a lot younger then his age
      3.My mum might of been underage when my dad and her started dating and stuff
      4.He’s always threatening to beat me in many ways (though he never lays a hand on me, that’s what my mum used to do). From saying that he’s “perfect at karate”, “it’s just sugar” or just saying it outright, saying that “it made him better” and things like that.
      5. When talking to me, he often calls me “dad” or “daddy” and when talking to others, calls me “a baby” and my mum “mum” (if you know what I mean.)
      Though with all of this, it seems to have calmed down a lot now that i talk with my friends (because corona). Then again, if my older brother is in the room, it doesn’t stop him so idk what the difference is.
      Hopes this helps!

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  • bigbudchonga
    3 years ago

    Give dad a good ol' sniff

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  • Fussmann
    3 years ago

    Does your mother know he does this stuff? She should know if he has a foot fetish.

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    • A_standard_name
      3 years ago

      I mean, I haven’t told her if that’s what you mean. I don’t know myself if she knows and I would rather not tell her for personal reasons.

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      • Fussmann
        3 years ago

        I understand not wanting to blatantly state your concerns to your mother, that can definitely be an ugly can of worms over potentially nothing... But I'd like to imagine that if your mother has seen this behavior, and knows of a possible foot fetish, which she should or at least suspect, she'd put a stop to it big time.

        Similarly, have you ever seen him paying her feet excessive attention? Foot massages, etc?

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        • A_standard_name
          3 years ago

          Well no to the latter part as they practically hate each other
          If i had 5 hands i could count the amount of times they’ve been in the same room for 30 minutes and not be talking smack about anyone and/or themselves

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  • Nata
    3 years ago

    He probably does have a foot fetish. It is so like people to get something they want and making it seem innocent or making it seem like something else.

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  • Clunk42
    3 years ago

    It depends on your age.

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  • A_standard_name
    3 years ago

    Since I already edited this post, here’s a comment with a few of his quotes (not completely accurate though)
    “i made those feet, let me tickle them”
    “it’s illegal to defend yourself, dad” (yes my dad calls me “dad/daddy”, my mum “mum” and never really my name or nick name. He also refers to me as a “baby” when talking to others)
    This was said around an hour before me posting this

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  • Mcochik
    3 years ago

    Have you ever noticed any of your dirty socks or underwear missing from your room or laundry basket ? Or your shoes weren’t where you last left them ?

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    • A_standard_name
      3 years ago

      I don’t often wear socks or underwear (but i do wear pants/trousers) inside, though they have gone missing once. Our family keeps all of our shoes on the same place and I don’t really pay attention to the order of them. I do have a couple in my room but they don’t get used a lot (or at all), or seemed to have moved. However, they haven’t gotten any kind of dust either, despite it being a year since i worn some of them.

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  • Kool_owl
    3 years ago

    How old are you ?

    Look...
    if you don't like you're dad doing that then tell him .
    If he loves you he would then respect you and stop doing it .

    If he keeps doing it then he has no respect for you and you're needs and that is a red flag to take notice .

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    • A_standard_name
      3 years ago

      I mean, I’m pretty sure I’ve told him multiple times not to but to no avail (then again I’m not the best at confronting people so there’s that).
      He definitely doesn’t even try to do things like this if I’m talking with my friends, or thinks I am, but if my brother is in the same room at us it doesn’t really stop him so there’s that.
      Also, I’m not going to put my age up there till later for personal reasons but I’m over ten to state the obvious.

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      • Kool_owl
        3 years ago

        You sound young and I understand you don't want to say you're age for safety reasons .
        Thats' good you know not to give out any personal info. on here .

        See you can take a stand you just did it !

        You will have to learn to be more confident and stand you're ground and not let people walk over you .

        Confronting people is something you will have to do for the rest of you're life .
        As a girl you need to set boundaries so you don't ever get taken advantage.

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        • A_standard_name
          3 years ago

          I’m a male but thanks for the advice.

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  • Mammal-lover
    3 years ago

    Sounds like your dad is just having fun with you. Jesus. Someones watching to much porn

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    • A_standard_name
      3 years ago

      Well he does watch porn as well so you’re right there.
      I read his history
      Edit: read that wrong

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  • Vvaas
    3 years ago

    call the police lol

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    • A_standard_name
      3 years ago

      He’s still my dad lmao

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    It's not normal if you're over four years of age.

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    • A_standard_name
      3 years ago

      Well I’m definitely not four.

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago

    Not if he has a foot fetish because... Then he's doing it for all the wrong reasons

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  • PTSD
    3 years ago

    Definitely a no. He has a foot fetish probably.

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  • McSorley
    3 years ago

    That literally made me shudder, eh? What a loon.

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  • dirtybirdy
    3 years ago

    No. Just NO. And no means FUCK NO!

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