Is it normal that i am nervous around females and scare them??

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So I had a big addiction to porn, and tbh that messes with the reward system in your brain..
I always was good at talking to females, they think Im cute cause of my nervousness.. and false sense of confidence. But now when I walk in public, I cant walk normal, talk normal half the time. I just stopped working at Wendys, and girls were saying 'sorry' and all this to taunt me, I found out that im the definition of tone def, and am not fully connected with those around me at this point in my life..
I also twitch! when im around people now, like cant get my nose out of others's business, People are also saying im a dog.. I express anger around females, i guess im kind of scared of them or some shit, Im also 18 yrs old
What do i do? :(

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  • seekelp
    8 years ago

    A first step is to watch porn less.

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    • Zonfire80
      2 years ago

      Nope

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  • PenguinHuman
    8 years ago

    thanks friends.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Stop with the porn, it's rotting your brain.

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    • Zonfire80
      2 years ago

      It actually doesn’t. It feels good and helps your self-esteem.

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      • RoseIsabella
        2 years ago

        Lies. Pornography is terrible for your self-esteem, and it teaches you to objectify other people, and women in particular. If you want to improve your self-esteem you must perform esteemable acts. Using pornography, and masturbating all the damn time are bad for you! Find something constructive to do! When you meet someone new shake their hand, and look them in the eye when you're conversing with them. Don't act like a creep when you meet people, especially women, and if you don't know what I'm talking about do some Google searches.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    8 years ago

    I know that this sounds like a generic answer, but you really need to seek out a therapist and try to work this out. It's totally understandable to be nervous around women - their brand of bitchcraft makes me want to sock the shit out of them at a higher frequency than I do men - but you could get in a hell of a lot more trouble for being aggressive or violent toward women than I can.

    You're going to have to learn how to cope with your anxiety and develop techniques for restraining yourself and keeping calm when you have to deal with women who are less than understanding of your social awkwardness. I partially blame that on the environment. I have worked fast food before and in addition to retail, it's almost like they purposefully hire the most abrasive bitches that they can possibly find. The decent folks who just go there to work and take their money home get reamed just as hard as you do. My Mom works as a manager at McDonalds and has for many years so I'm very familiar with how shitty the environment can be. Don't take it too personally.

    I think my worst reaction was accidentally falling asleep on a couch in the student center of my college and waking up to this dude (who was known to be an awkward kid) standing so close to my face that I essentially woke up to crotch in my face and I was like "WTF GET YOUR CROTCH OUT MY FACE!". Now that's just common sense not to creep on someone when they are chill like that. I should not have fallen asleep, yeah (even though everybody naps there), but come on. Crotch. In someone's face. Now if you're pullin' that kind of shit then yeah, get help now.

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