Is it normal that i can’t forget her?

I’m in my 60’s and had an affair with a women in her 20’s. I loved her and I thought she loved me until she broke it off for another married man. Now I’m reminded of her everywhere I go and by songs we liked and constantly see women that look like her. And of course my wife throws it in my face when we argue. I lay awake at night beside my sleeping wife for hours think about her.

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Comments ( 9 )
  • MrToxic

    Not sure if this is a prank post.

    Putting aside the matter of infidelity, you're a much older person and an age difference like that can out a major strain on even the best of relationships. What you had sounds like sex, nothing more, even if you felt that there was.
    If you're serious then I strongly suggest counselling. It sounds like you'd benefit from getting some things addressed

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  • YE

    Wait, is this a song?

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  • MonkThousandWords

    you're being played like a fiddle

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  • Ihidabody

    It was a long time ago. It's in the past. What's the point in thinking about your oh so good memories that happened long ago?

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  • bbrown95

    Have you written another post on here about arguing with your wife a lot?

    If so, is it possible that because you're experiencing unhappy times in your marriage and not getting along with your wife, your mind is yearning for those better times with another person? You may be just viewing those times through rose colored glasses.

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  • olderdude-xx

    Yes, it's normal to remember your 1st and your great loves in life.

    I remember several of mine as well. My wife is my 4th great love in my life - and the most important one presently.

    She does know about the previous 3, including their 1st names.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    Lol I hope this is a troll. Come on you did wrong, leave your wife if you're still thinking about a girl young enough to be your daughter.

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  • Somenormie

    Soon you'll let go of what had happened.

    Not always the case but it will happen eventually.

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    • I don't know. It's been 3 years. I'm starting to think that I don't want to let it go.

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