Is it normal that i don't want to work a traditional job?

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I have a master's degree. I spent a long time in school for my career. But since I moved to follow my husband's career, I wasn't able to find a job (due to living overseas). I had worked after college in my career for 3 years. Since moving, I opened my own business and work part-time for my own self-fulfillment. I take vacations when I want, I don't get stressed out, it's lovely! I don't make a lot of money, but sufficient enough to have a pretty substantial vacation fund. My husband makes a decent living too... about $100k. We've decided recently to start trying for kids (we will be moving again soon also, back to a place where it will be easier for me to find a job in my field). I just don't see myself even trying to have a career once we have kids. I do see myself continuing my part-time self-employed business if I can manage to accommodate clients. I feel guilty about how much money I spent on my education, and I am not even going to use it. Plus, I'm definitely a feminist, so it's hard for me to think that what im doing is a feminist should be proud of. On the other hand, I know how important it is for every woman to do what is right for herself and her family. I honestly was never happy working full-time for a company/boss. I love being my own boss! And all my clients love me (except one, who thought I charged too much, oh well). Is it normal that I spent so much time and money studying to have a career, and then I decide to be the stereotypical stay-at-home mom? Opinions in comments welcome.

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  • charli.m
    6 years ago

    You can have a family and be a feminist. Feminism is meant to be about having the choice to do what you want.

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  • Jimbo24
    6 years ago

    I bust my ass off to get a master's degree in a certain specialty but ended up starting a business in another one. Like you, I wasn't into the whole 9-to-5 and wanted to be my own boss. I also wanted to make good money, build a big house, and put my girlfriends / future wives in them who wouldn't have to work, who'd depend on me for money and decisions, and just keep themselves pretty and at my disposal and take care of my house and kids. I'm halfway there.

    So yeah, to answer your question, it's normal.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    This is a realization women have when they realize what they want isn't want feminism told them they wanted. You need to do what fulfills you and if that means working less hours and having kids, all the power to you.

    The only surprise to me here, is that you're a small business owner and you aren't stressed out.

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    • charli.m
      6 years ago

      I'm no feminist, but I know that legitimate feminism is about the opportunity to choose, rather than having something forced upon you because you have options.

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      • bubsy
        6 years ago

        Legitimate feminism, as you describe it, has already achieved its victories in the West. Modern feminism has more to do with population control and social conditioning than equality.

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        • charli.m
          6 years ago

          Oh, gypsy.

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        • McBean
          6 years ago

          Sounds like a reasonable position, except for mermaids 42 years your junior. That doesn't quite pass the smell test.

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    • BlackCatsAreAwesome
      6 years ago

      I wonder why pointing out this truth attracts down votes. Some neon-haired, pierced, tattooed hipster glasses wearing freak got triggered lol
      Rheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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