Is it normal that i'm automatically suspicious of people getting to know me?

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For years now, I've been automatically suspictious when people want to befriend me. I have a small, set group of friends that I've learned to trust and it really wigs me out when someone I've just met goes out of their way to get to know me. The suspicion can come from a boy texting and flirting with me; I tend to think, "Okay, he can't really like me, so what's his motive here? Is this a humiliating prank to be wary of?" Or it can come from someone who just wants to be my friend. All I can suspect is that their intentions can't be genuine and I am being set-up somehow. Is it normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Same. Whenever someone questions me I either think, "They're after something..." Or "HOW DARE YOU QUESTION THE SON OF ODIN!"

    Mostly the latter.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Low self-esteem, perhaps ? Thinking no one would like you... Or just thinking negatively in general. Just stop yourself, and think positive. You'd be surprised. People are not as mean as they seem.

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  • livnlrn93
    12 years ago

    A certain amount of suspicion is good for you, your intuition may be right on the money. If you don't know anything about the person, be suspicious.

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  • hellostrangers
    12 years ago

    You are being paranoid and holding yourself back. Not everyone we meet can be a beloved best friend, you need some aquaintances too, or your world will seem small.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    Dammit, I think I know who this is. And what does suspictious mean?

    Anyway...ever think maybe someone is befriending you just because they're nice? Just throwing it out there.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You gave your current friends a chance, why not give a chance to a new person? Maybe someone finds you very interesting and would like to know you as a person and become great friends. Don't be negative about this, and no not every guy wants "to stick his penis inside your vagina" like some kid said. But anyways, try to give them a chance to get to know them, if you don't like it, well you tried.

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    honestly, I think your being too paranoid. Of course you should be careful, but you dont want to live your life like that.

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