Is it normal that i'm so afraid of giving birth that i don't want to have kids?

As a male, I can't imagine what giving birth would be like. I've always thought it was an amazing thing how women carry a baby and give birth. That's probably the biggest reason I have a lot of respect for women.

Have you talked to your mom about the pain? Not all pain is created equally. Yeah, it hurts. But there are ways to manage the pain. And it only hirts during contractions. I was in labor for 28 hours with both of my children. However, it wasn't constant. You get breaks. And oxytocin rushing through the body is a natural pain killer. Your body was designed to endure the pain. The problem is that women tend to fight the pain or surpress it. You need to give in and let the natural functions take over. It isn't unlike an intense orgasm. That line between pleasure and pain slowly diminishes.

It is understandable to be scared of the pain. But remember that it isn't the kind of pain that comes with suffering. For some, sure, but we are strong. We were made to do this.

I'm nearly 20 yo old now and I was thinking about this the other day omg.i feel the exact same way you do. The pain and everything else scares me. To have something in you that moves.... It does scare me. And yes it's also one of the reasons why i don't want kids.
I'm scared to meet a guy who wants to be a dad. I wouldn't know what to say to him.

adopt. doesnt even have to be a kid, yo0u should get a bird or somehitng.

I've actually witnessed and assisted in a few births, one of which was a young, first time Mom. She had an epidural and fentanyl but her labor progressed so fast that neither drug worked for her, and she was able to feel pain and move her legs.

She did absolutely amazing, and it was a vaginal delivery. As soon as the baby is in your arms, you get a rush of oxytocin, which is the same chemical released when you orgasm. It bonds you with your baby and acts as a natural pain killer.

I have the same fear. I NEVER want to go through childbirth.

After childbirth the memory of the intensity of the pain fades away amazingly quickly, otherwise I seriously doubt women would ever have a second child.
They do give a spinal to minimize the pain, unless you don't want it. I can't imagine it myself, but if evolution hadn't properly prepared women to have children, the species probably wouldn't exist in such great numbers.
All that said, do the world a favor and adopt. There are already enough irresponsible cretins out there who pour forth their spawn in multitudes, uncaring of the realities of modern overpopulation.

here's what you do:

1. adopt a newborn baby that looks like you

2. get that little memory eraser flash thingy from men in black

3. right after you adopt, have your future husband use it on you and tell you that you just gave birth a couple days ago and that you passed out from the pain

you'll have no memory of adopting, so you'll believe your hubby and think you gave birth. problemo solved. you're welcome.

Cant you just have a C-section?

think it depends on the woman and dumb luck. My brother came in the car on the way to the hospital my other brother and I were born in a few hours. My mom said my dad who is a retired marine was more of a wreck than her and had to wait in the lobby . My mom is built like iron woman and work's out a lot and is on some special diet.

of course it's excruciating and scary trying to coax watermelons through a tiny hole and no, I didn't forget the pain like you are supposed to. But I didn't forget the good times either. You are very young !!! And there is a lot of other things to do if you don't want to be a mother yet or not at all.

Just do it. It's all a load of crap 90% of kids were mistakes anyway.(including me:)

My mother had 4 children and she told me she never had an epidural with any birth, yet never felt any pain.

Apparently something about her body made her go numb naturally from the waist down during child birth. Perhaps a lucky accident of her physiology.

Why can't you just adopt?

Your mother is a weirdo to expose you to that: did she not also tell you about the joyful painfree births she'd witnessed? Nothing about epidurals?

I don't think you should have children if you can't get over this fear because you'll be a nervous wreck throughout your pregnancy, let alone the birth itself