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When my bf and me started dating we decided we wanted 2 children. We have 1 now but he doesn't want to have another. So my only choice is to stop taking my contraception and be all over him all the time. I would prefer not to but what can i do? If i bring it up we fight.
This is common practice . Happens everyday baby. Theres millions of girls who arent even goin out with the guy and getting pregnant for child support, you know nothin? Im not near as bad as those bitches . Dont be hatein me its normal everyone doin it.
You know those guys that purposely poke holes in their condoms to "trap" the girl? This is the exact same, only it's with someone you've already settled with.
Is he still boinking you?
It's not right or good for anyone to trick someone into having a kid. After getting pregnant the next argument is going to be about abortion.
But if he's not interested in more children, then he doesn't need to keep having sex with you. There are a lot of (99% won't happen) kids out there.
If he's still poking, he has to understand it could happen. Only way to be absolutely positive is no sex.
So you're recommending i just stop taking my contraception and say nothing and maybe initiate sex more often to speed things along.
Absolutely not!
I'm not sure how you got that out of what I said or if you replied to the wrong comment.
My point was ,'cut him off', No Sex, at least not intercourse. No dipping the sausage. If he doesn't want anymore kids then he shouldn't be taking the risk.
If he's that strong on his stance of no more kids and your stance is I've got to have more, then you might want to give it some time but it may also be time to move on.
Absolutely not.
He probably does want kids... someday... and with the right person. So, its either not the right time for him now - or he is not convinced that you are the right person.
DO NOT trick him into a pregnancy... That's incredibly selfish, dishonest, and will not provide the best childhood for your child (as he will likely exit the relationship very quickly).
I suggest you re-evaluate your priorities... and maybe its time to find a different BF who is a better match.
You need to accept that he doesn't want another child. You can't control what he wants.
The part that you can control is what you choose to do about it. You could leave him and find someone else to have another child with, or you could learn to live with just one child. You need to decide which is more important to you - your relationship, or having another baby. There is no "right" answer here. The only wrong answer is to to have a baby with your boyfriend who clearly doesn't want one.
You can't always get what you want! Your desire to to have something doesn't make it okay for you to be dishonest, and tricky.
You’re an evil devious person if you would conceive a child in order to entrap a guy into marriage. You’ll be ruining 3 lives.
Don't do that. Even if you agreed that you would have 2 children, it's such a large decision that you both need to agree the whole way through.
If you trick him like that, it's grounds for divorce in my opinion. Completely disrespecting his choice in the matter, simply because you really really want another kid, is not okay.
He's a bf, they're not married.
I agree tricking is not the answer.
What ever reason they're not married is up to them, and I don't encourage breaking up a family. However, if she's willing to go it alone and really wants the second child it may be time to bid him good bye and look for a new life partner.