Is it normal that i still think about a guy i met around this time, last year?

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Okay, I met a guy late February 2013. I had a super duper crush on him for many months......

He didn't like me and would consistently push me away. It was confusing because despite pushing me away, he still did things to keep the game going and sustain my attention. We never really became friends.

I think about how things could have gone differently. I wonder how his days are. I wonder what he's doing on V-day. I wonder if I'll ever see him again. It's highly unlikely. I think about him everyday, multiple times a day. The last time I saw him was thanksgiving. :/

I feel like he won the game, and I lost. I feel like he got what he wanted (attention) and I just got...nothing but endless, wishful (personal) fantasies. The last time I saw him, he acted like he wanted nothing to do with me, too. That really hurt my feelings, because I was consistently kind, sweet, and cute towards him, until I realized he was self centered. And all I really said that made him turn ugly was "what's wrong...so absolutely everything, then?".

Honestly, he was an asshole. I was/am really lonely. It seems I am stuck, and not moving past this.

Do you know what I mean? I feel crazy.

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  • Lonely2
    10 years ago

    We like who we like...it sucks sometimes, but that is the way it is....at some point last year you felt he cared for you like you did him and that was a real good feeling...and that feeling is why you still think about him and if no one else comes along to replace that feeling you probably
    will continue to think about him until that feeling completely dies

    I also think about someone I havent seen for years...because no one else has created that feeling

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    10 years ago

    Have you ever thought that maybe he wasnt ready for a relationship? That maybe as much as he wanted to be with you, he wasn't emotionally ready and had he's life together? And you saying "what's wrong...so absolutely everything, then? made him realize that you are right... That he's still too broken, to worry about someone else right now other than himself, because he needs to make himself happy first before he can make someone else.
    Im sure he's doing fine in V-day, and hoping that you were too. V

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I did think of that. I saw very early on that he was a very unhappy man. I think I am angry at myself for not heeding the red flags, and getting wrapped up. I was a very unhappy woman. I guess we attract who we are.

      Thanks, I appreciate your response, because it reminds me that his smile made me feel like I was looking at an angel, no matter what he had going on beneath the veneer.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    You seem to be a glutton for punishment. Why bother with him? Being lonely is no reason to be with a jerk. There must be some other boys out there that might want to be your friend.
    Time to move on girl.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    10 years ago

    Ditch the bad potato, you're better off without him. It can be hard to get over it but I'm sure there's someone out there that deserves you more than that douchebag. We all have crushes but sometimes we're better off finding that one person that really appreciates you as a person

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  • toxicmiracle
    10 years ago

    Try to distract yourself from him. I know this feeling. I've been through this. There are many good guys waiting for yu out there. Don't let a guy stop you from seeing others.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Him not being interested in you does not make him "self centered" or "an asshole". This is your "interpretation" of his actions, which you even clearly state he tried to get you away from him.

    Move on.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      When I lost interest in him, he would start chasing me to sustain my interest.<BR><BR>I clearly stated that as well.

      And that is an asshole thing to do.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        How was he "chasing" you?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          getting in my face. flirting with me. following me around. hugging me. he isn't stupid.

          I think you're looking for a reason to rationalize that he wasn't playing games, and my perception is simply flawed. you weren't there, and your opinion of what you didn't experience doesn't matter.

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            "Getting in your face", in what way? How was he flirting with you? Doe she not hug others? Was it not a friendly hug? You have to consider these aspects. One thing I have noticed with girls in these scenarios is that they tend to think of things in manners that were not intended and assume it's because they are flirting.

            "you weren't there, and your opinion of what you didn't experience doesn't matter."

            Then get off the site if you have that mentality. You came to us, we didn't come to you.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              10 years ago

              flirtation is flirtation.

              there is no room for your conjecture, based on my experiences.

              there is no way for me to misinterpret "you are beautiful" and "i hope you don't get jealous when people flirt with me".

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I have a space boner.

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    • Tommythecat.
      10 years ago

      Wat eva U just jealous of my diamonds

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Hahahha

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