Is it normal that i think i gave my girlfriend an std?

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I recently and secretly just got bloodwork for stds because i used to meet and have sex with older women from local craigslist ads. I feel so depressed right now its not even funny. I gave up my womanizing ways awhile ago and met thegirl of my dreams about six months ago. Everything has been more than perfect. We live together and its like a dream. The problem is, its a huge fucking problem. I got my bloodwork back and had to be called back into the doctors office in person to be conseled about HIV. Yeah. It turns out having sex with random women caught up with me. I am just going to say it, i found out that i have HIV. This is bad because i have had sex with the love of my life countless times unprotected and i have put this girl that i love at risk. I have exposed her to my disease and theres a huge possibility that she could have contracted the virus from me!!! I feel suicidal for the first time in my life. I know that i need to be a man and tell her all of this. I am terrified. Is this a normal situation? Dont make fun of me. I know this is the internet but im scared and feel like i am going through this alone.

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39% Normal
Based on 28 votes (11 yes)
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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    Well, I´ve had unprotected sex as well so I wont pass judgement on you. I was just lucky. It´s easy to "forget" about protection in the heat of the moment.
    I think you just need to spill the beans, suggest she gets tested and tell her how sorry you are regardless of how shallow it may sound.
    people with HIV can live a normal and functioning life these days if they get treated in time and take their medications.

    I guess there is no easy way out of this :/

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    YOU MUST TELL HER IMMEDIATELY! You love her, right? Then do the right thing by her even if it means you lose her.

    Given you almost certainly don't know when you contracted it, what about the other women you had sex with?

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    This is why I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE CONDOMS!

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    • jaradscellmate
      8 years ago

      Yeah, I really love not being able to feel anything during sex.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Honestly, I don't care to notice the difference, besides I'd prefer not to end up in a crisis pregnancy situation or get an STD! I'll go bareback after both parties get extensive testing for diseases and if the guy wants to marries me. I'm in no rush to ruin my life so some jerk can feel good at my expense. I'm just not lonely enough for that bullshit.

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        • thegyspsysailor
          8 years ago

          it's not all about you, ya know

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          • RoseIsabella
            8 years ago

            It is all about me when it's about protecting my health and welfare! Unprotected sex holds NO interest or attraction for me.
            >:-D

            P.S. That wasn't very funny.
            :-)

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            • The_Creep
              8 years ago

              We need a poll about favorite condoms. You know Ribby, Tickles, the kind with happy faces on them. Would you submit a post? It really needs to be written from a woman's point of view.

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            • Shmendan
              8 years ago

              I still don't understand why you like mutilated dicks, lol.

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    It turns out having unprotected sex can lead to exactly this sort of problem. Chalk it up to a lesson learned.

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  • jaradscellmate
    8 years ago

    http://isitnormal.com/story/should-i-get-tested-218824/

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  • charli.m's_Constant_Period
    8 years ago

    Pretty dumb. At least you will die knowing you had your fun.

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