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I miss him so much even tho we never officially dated but we had sex for over a year. Sometimes when I masturbate I manifest him while I orgasm by speaking to him telepathically asking him to text me. It’s kinda hot.
Yeah that's normal. As someone who's had some toxic relationships it's normal to miss someone even if they weren't good for you, the reason being you get attached to this person while you date. Attachment isn't love though but it can be just as hard to break. You can also of course love someone who wasn't good for you. Typically a very toxic person hides their worst sides until you are already in love and once you're in love you can't just snap your fingers and the feelings are gone. Unfortunately.
Just give it time. It's normal to think about him and to miss him but you should try to remove the rose colored glasses and remind yourself why he's bad for you and what he did, look at the relationship and him realistically rather than cherry picking from your memories.
People fantasise about all sorts of weird and seriously fucked-up things when they masturbate. It's also normal to fantasise about previous sexual partners, even those who treated us like shit.
Doing that stuff in the privacy of your mental wank-chamber is safe and totally normal. But you describe the guy as toxic, so there are probably very good reasons you're not still seeing him, and getting back together with him IRL would be a form of self-harm.
If you have described him as toxic then you shouldn't come near him at all costs. Who the hell knows? what that guy could potentially do to you.
Normal but sad. You're just sabotaging yourself by doing that. I've done something similar but been in the opposite situation (in a relationship but never had sex) and looking back on the times when I've done it, it was like a sort of emotional and sexual self-harm. You will gain absolutely nothing good from getting all that oxytocin flowing in connection with your toxic ex. You're storing up difficulty for yourself by reinforcing those feelings of love for him. He's your ex, and he's toxic.