Is it normal that i was relieved when grandpap died?

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When I was really young I would go visit my maternal grandfather's house. I often enjoyed going over there. However, he eventually had to be put in a nursing home. Since then, my mom had me and my brother going up multiple times a week, even after school. I live east of Pittsburgh and he was in West Virginia, making it an hour long drive. The drive was not the worst of it. One time, when I went to visit grandpap, this one old lady grabbed me from behind and wouldn't let go. This woman had a surprisingly strong grip for an old lady (either that or I didn't want to get arrested). Eventually the staff managed to pry her off of me, but after that I didn't want to set foot in that place again, fearing that she or someone else would do that to me again. However, my mom still kept making me go back. When I heard grandpap had finally died, I was shocked to hear the news at first, but I ultimately felt relieved that I wouldn't have to go back to that place again. Is it normal that I felt this way, or is there something wrong with me?

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    It’s relief from the fears you had about the nursing home (strangers grabbing you) and visiting him (the drive, his condition, etc).
    It’s normal but you should feel some sadness too.

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    There's no single, "right" way to react to the death of a family member.

    You don't say much about your relationship with your grandfather. If you didn't feel a particularly deep emotional bond with him, and you didn't enjoy your time with him, then you not being totally devastated by his death is understandable. If you found the visits to the place disruptive to your normal life and traumatic - and visits to that sort of place often are, even if you're not grabbed by a deranged old person - then it's not surprising you're relieved you won't have to go back.

    If this is something that happened recently, you may find that your feelings change as time passes.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Well, hopefully that crazy old woman died an unpleasant death. I don't like people doing that kinda shit to kids even if the people doing it are old and senile.

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  • Nickvey
    5 years ago

    dont ever let an old witch grab you , she was trying to steal your years and stalive buy witchcraft. just punch them real hard in the bladder and they should let go of you.

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