Is it normal that my roommates are like this?

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I am a female in my senior year of college. I live with my best friend since freshman year and our other friend (who is male).
When we all moved into our apartment things were great. we were all super close, we all hung out and talked and stuff. But about 2 months in everything got weird. And I feel like it all started when my female roommate confessed to our other roommate that she has feelings for him. I knew he didn't have feelings for her and I told her that I didn't think it was mutual, but she still held hope and told him and he gave the bullshit "im just focusing on school right now" excuse and didnt tell her he didnt feel the same. So she took that as: i like you too im just focusing on school.
Anyway since then they don't really talk to me anymore. I don't see them often because I spend mmost of my time in my room. But sometimes Ill come downstairs when theyre watching tv (which they are doing 24/7) and they dont say a word. I'll try to make conversation but they just give me one word answers. It seems like theyre always in a bad mood. They rarely even talk to eachother but theyre always sitting down there together
And I don't think they have some sort of problem with me cause I can't think of any reason why they would. I'm actually the roommate who cleans up after everyone and does most of the housework.
Also sometimes when its just one of them downstairs they talk to me normally.

I just feel like ive been isolating myself more and more and I don't even feel like I'm friends with them anymore. We used to talk so much more, now i dont know whats going on in their lives and they dont know whats going on in mine. But they know whats going on in eachothers.

Do you think their behavior is normal?
Anyone have a reasonable explanation for this or some advice?

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  • Clizzle
    6 years ago

    Walk in the room next time and say "for the love of god will you just fuck her already" Things will change after that I'm sure.

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  • suckonthis9
    6 years ago

    Don't tolerate bullshit at any level, it only becomes worse.

    The TV is nothing but [antisocial] bullshit. It is brainwashing them (literally).
    Turn it off, and rid yourselves of it.
    Turn on the tunes, or listen to a radio, instead.

    (If you need video, from time to time, you can usually find something on the internet).

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    • Dustyair
      6 years ago

      A fucking men man, A fucking men. TV is not called "programming" for nothing.

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    • MysticLane
      6 years ago

      agreed i hate watching tv

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago

    Basically, you're not reading between the lines, or sensing the elephant in the room.

    It's not about you. What you're witnessing is the male equivalent to that "creepy guy who wont take no for an answer." Your friend is that creepy guy, and the your male roommate is that hot blond chick who is unsure of what to do. They're not isolating you, your creepy friend is giving all her attention to this uncomfortable guy, and this poor guy doesn't want to rock the boat.

    What you should do is focus on school, explore some new hobbies, and make some new friends. Because until your male friend grows large enough balls tell your female friend to fuck off, she's going to keep being creepy and clinging to him. Yeah, it sucks to loose your friend to dumb shit like this, but it happens.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Sounds like she is following him around the house like a puppy looking for scraps of food, or attention in her case. Just ignore them, and look for some new and interesting activities to pursue on your own. He's probably just pretending to tolerate her needy, obsessed ass. Eventually he will tell her to fuck off, or maybe she just might actually catch on either way she sounds awful. He's no prize either.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Feel like there's gotta be more to the story right?

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    • MysticLane
      6 years ago

      im not sure what else is relevant. why what are you thinking?

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      • rayb12
        6 years ago

        Doesn't add up, but I mean people grow apart.

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        • rayb12
          6 years ago

          But the separation is also impermanent. I'd recommend as others have speaking to or spending time with them

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          • MysticLane
            6 years ago

            Yesterday I was alone with my female roommate and she started a convo with me which really threw me off. then she brought up that no one talks to eachother and I was like oh im glad u noticed that cause I thought you guys mightve had a problem with me or something. And she basically said that our male roommate is always in a bad mood which puts her in a bad mood. And I was like yeah I can tell you both always seem to be in a bad mood lol. And she said she's trying to not feed into his bad vibes so much anymore. I didn't think of saying it in the moment but obviously her being around him 24/7 isn't helping and she should spend more time in her room.
            so yeah that was that dont really know what else to do about it at this point lol.

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  • HaterofPants
    6 years ago

    I suggest sitting down with one or both of them and ask8ng them what’s going on.

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  • HaterofPants
    6 years ago

    I don’t think it’s personal. Unfortunately, when someone is attracted to you/has feelings for you that you don’t reciprocate it’s pretty uncomfortable and can make life unbearable especially if you live with them. Maybe the feelings just made ruined the atmosphere.

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