Is it normal that my self-esteem is wrapped up in my gpa and my weight?

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I'm a freshman in college right now, and I realized that my self-esteem lives and dies with my GPA and my weight. If I get a bad grade on a test or if I gain even just 2 or 3 pounds, I feel horrible about myself and want to just hide in my room and beat myself up about it, telling myself I'll never get into a top-tier grad school or have a great job if I get a C in freshman calculus, or that I will feel terrible this summer if I look that bad in a swim suit.
I don't know if this is a healthy kind of self-motivation, because a lot of the time, the beating myself up involves going to the gym or studying a lot so I can correct my shortcomings. I don't really know how else someone would get
So, is this normal?

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  • bigguy2010
    12 years ago

    I used to be the same way... all those years ago. I started studying for my finals on day one and did 1,000 stomach crunches a day (on top of lifting a 50 lb. free weight in each hand.

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  • wii3willrule
    9 years ago

    Keep in mind, I am defining normal as: "The condition of being free from any mental disorder; sane; healthy"

    With that definition in mind, no, this is not normal, although it is typical. Society has a number of ways of making you hate yourself or feel inadequate and this is one of them.

    "You are worthless, unless we decree otherwise. And we will only decree otherwise when you conform to *our* insane standards, *our* insane doctrine. You are 15 pounds overweight, slave. You are worthless. Your GPA has fallen .5 points. You are worthless. Hate yourself, you lousy piece of filth, and get back to work." -- Society

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  • Softballstar0126
    12 years ago

    I feel the same way but im only in 8th grade.. :( Im also anorexic so it makes it worse. I know how you feel hang in there! :)

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  • bigguy2010
    12 years ago

    Now I have a torn rotator cup, a bad back, and a boss who does not give out many compliments.

    Enjoy it while it lasts!

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    I wouldn't worry too much about the freshman 15...it happens to a lot of people...even myself but I went back down to my normal size after that first year. Damn college food. As far as grad school goes, I wouldn't exactly sweat a C. It's F's that are a red flag to grad schools. Just make sure to keep your GPA over 3.0 and you're fine. Your GRE score also helps. If you don't do too well on the GRE but have a good GPA or vice versa, it evens out. I'm actually taking my GRE on friday AH! Anyways, continuous stress isn't good...just make sure you're happy.

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    I'm the same way except it's only with my grades. If I fail a test, which doesn't happen often, I call myself worthless and a waste of space. I have an almost 5.0 GPA, but I'm slowly rising to obtain that 5. I think that we're both normal.

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