Is it normal that people who act superior because they have kids annoy me

I'm also older and never wanted children. People should be thanking us for not leaving another carbon footprint on the planet, or adding another student to already overcrowded schools. I feel the government should reward us for NOT having children...not the other way around. My aunt and uncle had 10 children and never paid a dime in tax. So because he couldn't wear a confirm, I have to be taxed to the teeth to make up for it? Yes, it's normal to be annoyed.

I can kind of relate, I'm really young (only 22) and I'm convicted in my absolute resolution that I will not have children. Don't want them, don't want the responsibility, don't want the financial setbacks, don't want the glares and questions as a gay Dad. Don't want any of it.

I tend to get the patronising "oh you're only 22, you'll change your mind!", or even worse from my family "oh just wait until you find the right WOMAN!". I don't think the message has quite sunk in...

I get the vibe that it's even worse for women though, since *obviously* a woman's sole purpose in life is to reproduce and provide children... in a world where not even enough resources for 3 billion people is being stretched between 7, and counting.

"I have kids" is a statement, having children is NOT a credential at all. Having a PHD is a credential and something that is EARNED.

The OP should take comfort from so many who empathise and (so far) not a naysayer in sight.

One of the most ridiculous accusations I've heard is that those who choose not to have children are being selfish. Yet, the question those same accusers then ask is the one already referred to, which is,'Who's going to look after you when you're old?'

Well, if there's anything 'selfish' attending the subject of having children then surely, having them on the precept of assuming they'll look after you when you're old has to be as selfish as it gets.

But then, as the OP points out, there are many who do have children who hardly see them. Even then, it's often regarded as a chore to be undertaken out of duty - and a son/daughter-in-law tagging along with clenched teeth!

Whether it's normal, or not, to be annoyed by parents who take a superior attitude towards those without children - it sure as hell is justified!

I agree.

Besides, some people happen to be infertile, and can't have kids if they wanted to!

Why are people so judgemental about stupid things. :c

They annoy me too. I'm 27 and I want nothing to do with popping out children. Most of the people that look down on me can't afford to own a home, go out to restaurants, get themselves nice things, etc. They just seem so stressed out half the time. The whole, "oh, you'll change your mind when you get older" nonsense kind of makes my skin crawl. I'm so glad my boyfriend does not want them either.

The most ridiculous assertion people make is the "who will take care of you when you are older". First off being old isn't something I really want to be extended as in being taken care of, unless of course I still have a high quality of life, in which case I wouldn't need someone taking care of me. I love how its assumed kids will take care of elderly parents but never talked about how many times grown children live NOWHERE NEAR their elderly parents.

There are some very good points made in this story. If you take vacations and look around at the families also on vacation I can guarantee that most of the time the parents look very stressed out, I can almost guarantee they are not enjoying the vacation as much as they could be if the kids were not there.

The world is overly populated anyway,I think it's better not to add to it. I don't have children either,and like,the human race is not going to die out if I don't have kids.

the wife and I have a lot of fun with insecure people who try and make us feel bad for being childfree. we say things like
we are actually vampires
we are aging backwards like Benjamin button
our robot skeleton army will take care of things
we are planning to spontaneously combust like those guys in this is spinal tap.

Smashed it. Couldn't agree more.