Is it normal that things like hearing a car door being slammed scares me?

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I am unsure as to whether what I'm feeling is an over reaction or if I really need help. Not long ago in a pub I owned I was locked in and held hostage while a gang of 9 men attacked me and my staff, they came upstairs where I was asleep in bed with my three year old and I was heavily pregnant, they had a knife to my belly and made me open the safe... They took all my savings and took the cctv box. Subsequently to this I lost my pub and was homeless... The detective said if I want to find them and have them arrested etc they may find out where I live etc and was made to feel like it was my fault... Anyway now I live in a house elsewhere and any sound I hear outside scares me... I dont like opening the curtains, I dont answer the door to anyone, and car door being slammed makes me feel asif someone is here to get me, I am living in fear...

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  • BlackyHancock
    7 years ago

    I am so sorry that happened to you. Your response is a normal response to that kind of trauma. I had similar kind of traumatic events some years ago and was affected by it in a similar way to you. I suggest getting some therapy for PTSD. I think it'll help. It helped me. Good luck.

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  • mypenisinyourmouth
    7 years ago

    They should rename safes to unsafes because shit just happens around those things.

    Sorry about your traumatic experience. At least you're always alert now. The rest of us are too at ease with our lives. But not you. So be grateful you survived the ordeal and keep being vigilant.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      No, not good advice: hyper vigilance is an almost universal symptom of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and gratitude won't heal it

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Just tell yourself that your not in that bad situation anymore, and your safe :)

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      That won't heal Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, OP needs intensive therapy

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      • sandnigga
        7 years ago

        I dont know, I think it really depends on the person

        If she trys to convince herself by saying she's safe over and over, it might actually help her

        Because thats the truth, she's really not in any danger.

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        • Ellenna
          7 years ago

          I don't think you know much about PTSD: sure, telling yourself "That was then, this is now and I am safe" is a technique which can help as part of thereapy, but after such a terrible experience she needs more than just self-talk.

          You're correct that this can work to some extent after a minor shock, but not such a major one.

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          • sandnigga
            7 years ago

            I still say it depends on the person

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            • Ellenna
              7 years ago

              Maybe but why take the risk? Believe me PTSD may go undergound but it doesn't go away by itself. Of course OP can try changing self-talk but if it doesn't work she really needs to have some therapy to learn how to manage it

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    • sandnigga
      7 years ago

      Or buy a gun, hire some bodyguards, get home protection system

      There are things you can do to help yourself, but you gotta be willing to do it

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    • sandnigga
      7 years ago

      Fine, I say learn some martial arts. You should gain confidence in your ability to defend yourself.

      Then you shouldnt feel that way anymore. And will be able to kick their ass ;)

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